If a girl were to want to meet you...

[Poonani Maker]

off of a website what would you type to move forward your encounter with one another?

I never put much credence into meeting a dame on the web but I created a hotornot profile w/ pics and got a few meet-me's. Now, the ones I don't wanna meet - the 40 year old has-beens etc. - I just ignore and don't click "Yes," just let it sit there, but the one or two I WILL be willing to meet, I click "Yes" which in turn creates a "double" "match."

Now, my question is: "Where do I go from here? When I get the double-match? Do I initiate by messaging her (i.e. quite young - in college dorm - and beautiful)?"

I have 6 days (out of 30 days) left before our double-match expires and I REALLY would like to meet this one. She's picked me first and I think that she's a good compliment to me looks-wise. She looks Very vibrant! and probably likes Harry Potter. Crap. I grew up on Star Wars and sh1t.

Anyhow, what should I do? just, let it expire? I don't want to come off as not-the-prize by messaging her first, but she looks like my type, or what I'm looking for.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I'm just curious, what would you do if the two of you didn't meet on a website?

 

[Poonani Maker]

I'm just curious, what would you do if the two of you didn't meet on a website?

Well, she'd probably be smitten in the beginning at first sight. Then I'd see her again, and again, but we'd never actually go out because I'd be in a "strictly business" mode and couldn't bring myself to asking her out for fear of getting fired.

 

[Interceptor]

Ask her to meet you for coffee somewhere near you.
State the day, time, and place.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Ask her to meet you for coffee somewhere near you.
State the day, time, and place.

I don't like coffee. She lives 40 miles away. I'd rather take her to a planetarium (for free) about 20 miles South of me and 20 miles North of her. I overheard a co-worker talking about this place the other day. She might get bored though. She's kind of a skater chick, may be a little too "cool" or "fast" (in terms of her judgments) for me. Knowledge of the stars is very important though.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I don't like coffee. She lives 40 miles away...

Something told me that there was a bit more to this. So what exactly do you want to achieve from the "next step," whatever that may be.

 

[Interceptor]

I don't like coffee. She lives 40 miles away. I'd rather take her to a planetarium (for free) about 20 miles South of me and 20 miles North of her. I overheard a co-worker talking about this place the other day. She might get bored though. She's kind of a skater chick, may be a little too "cool" or "fast" (in terms of her judgments) for me. Knowledge of the stars is very important though.

WOW. dude.

Dude...

DUDE.

You DO NOT have to actually DRINK Coffee there, dude.


And hello...you DON"T ACTUALLY HAVE to PAY for HER COFEE, DUDE.



MEETING was the word I chose instead of "going out on a DATE".

You don't know this female, so you are NOT going to "TAKE her OUT on a DATE"
Comprende?

You are MEETING her in a neutral place for a reason, dude.


wow...

 

[Poonani Maker]

Something told me that there was a bit more to this. So what exactly do you want to achieve from the "next step," whatever that may be.

to fvck her, duh I think that's what she wants from me already, maybe more.

 

[Poonani Maker]

WOW. dude.

Dude...

DUDE.

You DO NOT have to actually DRINK Coffee there, dude.


And hello...you DON"T ACTUALLY HAVE to PAY for HER COFEE, DUDE.



MEETING was the word I chose instead of "going out on a DATE".

You don't know this female, so you are NOT going to "TAKE her OUT on a DATE"
Comprende?

You are MEETING her in a neutral place for a reason, dude.


wow...

Ok so, should I just message to her?: "You wanta get together for coffee?" or "Let's meet for coffee?" I think that I can already judge her answer to that - No.

But I guess I can come right out and ask her like that, wtf who cares if she says yes, ok if no, so I've got others, but I'd really like to not fvck this up. She might be a keeper, based on her looks/youth/richness.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

to fvck her, duh I think that's what she wants from me already, maybe more.

Well if that's all it's all dependant on the kind of state you've created with her online. If it was one of physical chemistry and such, why waste time on something like going to a planetarium?

Wouldn't you want to do something where the two of you you interact more one on one and then be relatively close to someplace where the two of you could get to know one another even better? It's hard to do something impulsive if you have to first drive 20 miles in order to get somewhere more intimate.

 

[Poonani Maker]

It's hard to do something impulsive if you have to first drive 20 miles in order to get somewhere more intimate.

As far as I'm concerned we can just do it in the planetarium. My 'other' plates are away with family for the holidays, so now is the time to explore these straggler ones I've been putting off while they're gone.

I think that I'm ready for a girl who I or none of my so-called friends know. I like the clean-slate aspect. Too many guys when they know that a girl is interested in you, will try to steer her away from you with lies and innuendo, slandering you to no end. Most women fall for it. I believe that 80% of my current plates have been slipped bad info about me, recently. I think it's time to bring in a girl from the outside, one that nobody knows, and say fvck you to all those who have been talking about me in a negative light - no love.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...I think that I'm ready for a girl who I or none of my so-called friends know. I like the clean-slate aspect. Too many guys when they know that a girl is interested in you, will try to steer her away from you with lies and innuendo, slandering you to no end. Most women fall for it. I believe that 80% of my current plates have been slipped bad info about me, recently. I think it's time to bring in a girl from the outside, one that nobody knows, and say fvck you to all those who have been talking about me in a negative light - no love.

Dude, it sounds like you have other things which need attention beyond finding new plates to spin.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Ok here's a snippet of her profile:

"but i dont like fake people and people who just want to get laid. peace."

So should I say to her in my first and ONLY message: You know, you really had me until I read "i don't like people who just want to get laid..." oh well.

I've got 44 hours left to contact her or no poudie for me.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Ok here's a snippet of her profile:

"but i dont like fake people and people who just want to get laid. peace."

So should I say to her in my first and ONLY message: You know, you really had me until I read "i don't like people who just want to get laid..." oh well.

I've got 44 hours left to contact her or no poudie for me.

From this snippet I'm wondering why you're so interested in her when you just want to bed her.

 

[Poonani Maker]

From this snippet I'm wondering why you're so interested in her when you just want to bed her.

Well, she looks like the fast bedding type. She's sending out mixed signals. I can see how she's just too young (and hot) to put up with in the long run. A chick like this, while young and full of imagination and ideas probably, wouldn't know what she was getting into if she met up with a guy like me - a crazy mother fooker. She'd probably drop me in less than a week,maybe day,maybe hour, because she "appears" to be - based on her profile - little miss perfect, rich daddy's girl, yet a definite attribute of tomboyishness i.e. the skateboarding/snowboarding. Her options are wide open is what I'm trying to get at, so why waste my time. I'd only be going into this with intention to fvck and fvck quick and get out while the gettin's good because I think I know this type who would be hard to maintain long-term. I just know instinctively what woman is gonna work for me long-term. I've met her/them. They must hold similar beliefs, and be a little fvcked up while at the same time honest. A "perfect" girl is just not gonna do it for me, different backgrounds, different paths and lives. Commonalities are very important long-term.

Our double-match has expired anyhow so, I let this one go.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Well, she looks like the fast bedding type. She's sending out mixed signals. I can see how she's just too young (and hot) to put up with in the long run. A chick like this, while young and full of imagination and ideas probably, wouldn't know what she was getting into if she met up with a guy like me - a crazy mother fooker. She'd probably drop me in less than a week,maybe day,maybe hour, because she "appears" to be - based on her profile - little miss perfect, rich daddy's girl, yet a definite attribute of tomboyishness i.e. the skateboarding/snowboarding. Her options are wide open is what I'm trying to get at, so why waste my time. I'd only be going into this with intention to fvck and fvck quick and get out while the gettin's good because I think I know this type who would be hard to maintain long-term. I just know instinctively what woman is gonna work for me long-term. I've met her/them. They must hold similar beliefs, and be a little fvcked up while at the same time honest. A "perfect" girl is just not gonna do it for me, different backgrounds, different paths and lives. Commonalities are very important long-term.

Our double-match has expired anyhow so, I let this one go.

My gut tells me that you wanted the challenge.

 

[Poonani Maker]

My gut tells me that you wanted the challenge.

Well, I just checked. I've still got 26 hours. I'll briefly let you peek at one of her pics:

 

[AFC Savior]

wtf is this?

do you have BASIC social skills man??? wtf!!!!

you message her, say "hey whats up? my name is ____ , whats yours? give me your screen name and we'll talk sometime cutie "

or ask for her #, but she likely wont give it online till she talks to u at least a little!

you Poonani Maker seem to seriously lack social skills and look ****in desperate as all hell if all you wanna say is "wanna meet for coffee" - do you not know how to have a basic conversation to quickly get to know someone? you cant escalate from NOTHING

total loser

 

[Poonani Maker]

wtf is this?

do you have BASIC social skills man??? wtf!!!!

you message her, say "hey whats up? my name is ____ , whats yours? give me your screen name and we'll talk sometime cutie "

or ask for her #, but she likely wont give it online till she talks to u at least a little!

you Poonani Maker seem to seriously lack social skills and look ****in desperate as all hell if all you wanna say is "wanna meet for coffee" - do you not know how to have a basic conversation to quickly get to know someone? you cant escalate from NOTHING

total loser

look dipsh1t, I converse with over 100 people a day most of them women, dipsh1t, so I know how to talk to women in person, just that this online thing that's stumping me cause it doesn't feel natural.

 

[AFC Savior]

dipshyt, you talk online just like in person - thats the whole point!!

its only creepy when you come at them all weird and different than in a real life situation

thats the point - make it feel as natural as possible for her, and if you yourself dont like how unnatural it feels, then stop worrying about this and EXXAGERATING how important this is to you by dedicating a whole thread on sosuave to it