If a girl says her last boyfriend was abusive

[speakeasy]

Does that mean you should raise the big red flag? Think of the law of attraction here for a minute. If a girlfriend has a history of psycho/a--hole boyfriends, that probably means she is seriously f-cked in the head as well or she wouldn't be attacting such scumbags. But at the same time, if the girl seems cool, maybe she should be given a chance to prove herself?

 

[tsmith2334]

I've been down that road before. DON'T DO IT. She'll probably even end up going back to him. Don't bother!

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I don't know if I believe anything a woman says about past relationships. How many divorced women have you met who say they are divorced because "the husband cheated".. Almost all of them I have dated says this including one I am seeing now! Don't know if I believe it though.

 

[DJDamage]

I don't know if I believe anything a woman says about past relationships. How many divorced women have you met who say they are divorced because "the husband cheated".. Almost all of them I have dated says this including one I am seeing now! Don't know if I believe it though.

Does it matter? if a woman decides to come up with a dumb story like so you'l feel sorry for her then she ain't worth your time.

If a girl says her last boyfriend was abusive, you got to find the details. Was it physical? was it emotional? how long did she stay with him once it started? Any woman that can accept an abuse from her boyfriend without walking away the first time it happens is probably fvcked up in the head and its best to stay clear away from her.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Does it matter? if a woman decides to come up with a dumb story like so you'l feel sorry for her then she ain't worth your time.

If a girl says her last boyfriend was abusive, you got to find the details. Was it physical? was it emotional? how long did she stay with him once it started? Any woman that can accept an abuse from her boyfriend without walking away the first time it happens is probably fvcked up in the head and its best to stay clear away from her.

How about the one's who say "my ex cheated on me". Hell they all say that. Doesn't mean it's true.

And I'm not at the level yet where if a girl talks about her ex she "isnt worth my time". Maybe you are, maybe you are not. But if a hot woman is giving me sex and attention, talking about her ex isn't going to make her not worth my time!

Whenever they start talking about the EX, I say I don't want to hear about it.
And that's it. I don't hear about it anymore, and don't ask. I think it's some kind of sh!t test.

 

[aliasguy]

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I've been told all KINDS of horror stories by women. Many were probably true.

But, more than once, I've seen chicks go BACK to the "abuser" after we were done. I know some women have trouble "leaving," but what does it say when they get out, and then RETURN, once "free"?

I don't think abuse is rare enough to be a "red flag," but like always, take what women tell you with a grain of salt, especially early on.

That said, I want to condemn abuse of women. And of men, too.

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[DJDamage]

How about the one's who say "my ex chated on me". Hell they all say that. Doesn't mean it's true.

well the same rule applies, did she leave him right away when she found out he cheated?! or she stayed with him?! If a woman keeps getting cheated on then something is up with the woman herself or the type of guys she chooses to date speaks volumes.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

well the same rule applies, did she leave him right away when she found out he cheated?! or she stayed with him?! If a woman keeps getting cheated on then something is up with the woman herself or the type of guys she chooses to date speaks volumes.

Who cares about the details?

My point was how do you know it's true? They lie all the time. Details they probably made up is more like it. I tell them I don't want to hear about her ex but if she wants to talk about me and her that's fine. It's been working and to tell you the truth who cares about EX's?

The past is the past.

 

[Last Man Standing]

If a girl says her last boyfriend was abusive

Slap her around and punch her in the stomach, for telling you this!!

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Slap her around and punch her in the stomach, for telling you this!!

So you agree that you should just tell them "i don't want to hear about your ex"?

 

[Last Man Standing]

So you agree that you should just tell them "i don't want to hear about your ex"?

I was being sarcastic. Most women today say they were abused - because of a look, or a word, or a gesture - the term abuse has lost its meaning today because it has been misused by the "liberated" horing femininsts to blame the male!!

Men don't "abuse" Virgins, and if so then virgins won't stay in abusive relationships!! This tells me she is not a virgin!!

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I was being sarcastic. Most women today say they were abused - because of a look, or a word, or a gesture - the term abuse has lost its meaning today because it has been misused by the "liberated" horing femininsts to blame the male!!

Well yes, that's what I was trying to say before. They make sh1t up to make us feel sorry for them. Then most AFC's will try to be better than her "EX" and kiss her a$$ all day long. I don't buy it and don't want to hear it and I let them know.

Maybe I should tell her my EX abused me too? How would THAT go?

 

[KontrollerX]

Next her.

If your gut instinct feeling is giving you signals that she is not worth your time then she is not worth your time.

Your gut instinct never lies.

This type always goes on and on about how bad their previous boyfriend treated them.

Its all a ploy to make you feel sorry for them and make you feel emotional about her problems.

That should not be your problem.

Its in her past and should only be made known to you if you ask her about her past and then only if she wants to share her past information with you.

Chicks that immediately start going into their personal life troubles with big long sad stories and appear innocent generally are not.

Its just a manipulation tactic to abuse your protect and provider instinct.

Such women are broken and will break you too if you get involved.

They are not the innocent angels they appear to be and you cannot save them.

They can only save themselves by getting the help that they need.

"Maybe I should tell her my EX abused me too? How would THAT go?"

Not the way you want.

They'll pretend to care and be oh so concerned about you but really the concern is on themselves.

This type will do absolutely anything to get you emotionally dependent upon her so you will then be more than willing to listen to her problems all day long until she is eventually tired of your caring and in need of something new at which point you will either be discarded or friendzoned both equally undesirable scenarios.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Next her.

If your gut instinct feeling is giving you signals that she is not worth your time then she is not worth your time.

Your gut instinct never lies.

This type always goes on and on about how bad their previous boyfriend treated them.

Its all a ploy to make you feel sorry for them and make you feel emotional about her problems.

That should not be your problem.

Its in her past and should only be made known to you if you ask her about her past and then only if she wants to share her past information with you.

Chicks that immediately start going into their personal life troubles with big long sad stories and appear innocent generally are not.

Its just a manipulation tactic to abuse your protect and provider instinct.

Such women are broken and will break you too if you get involved.

They are not the innocent angels they appear to be and you cannot save them.

They can only save themselves by getting the help that they need.

"Maybe I should tell her my EX abused me too? How would THAT go?"

Not the way you want.

They'll pretend to care and be oh so concerned about you but really the concern is on themselves.

This type will do absolutely anything to get you emotionally dependent upon her so you will then be more than willing to listen to her problems all day long until she is eventually tired of your caring and in need of something new at which point you will either be discarded or friendzoned both equally undesirable scenarios.

You don't have to "NEXT" her. If she is telling you about her EX, then maybe she at least wants to fck. You make it sound like we have to develop a LTR with these women.

Just let her know you don't want to hear about her EX, and if she wants to talk about YOU and HER, then you can find the time.

But you do NOT have time to hear her talk about her Ex's.

It's a simple strategy that works!

What's the big deal about that? If you "NEXT" her that means you won't get any pu$$y and that's not what we are here for. Plus I was just kidding about telling her I was abused too.

 

[KontrollerX]

Well Speakeasy seems to be looking for a girlfriend candidate with this post.

This type of chick is only worth being a fvck buddy regardless of how cool she may seem.

If Speakeasy just wants a fvck buddy then hey don't next her but if he's looking for a girlfriend this one is a total waste of time when he could be spending his time finding someone quality instead.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Well Speakeasy seems to be looking for a girlfriend candidate with this post.

This type of chick is only worth being a fvck buddy regardless of how cool she may seem.

If Speakeasy just wants a fvck buddy then hey don't next her but if he's looking for a girlfriend this one is a total waste of time when he could be spending his time finding someone quality instead.

Be easy telling people they are wasting time. You don't know and I don't know the situation other than what is posted here.

For all we know they could be made for each other and live a 50 year married life.

 

[KontrollerX]

Made for eachother?

Heh, heh another thing this site is against is the oneitis idealization.

The only thing we can hope for is compatibility not some magical fairytale romance.

And this one is a waste of time as a girlfriend from what he has told us.

The abusive boyfriend story is 9 times out of 10 a load of crap unless she can provide some solid proof of it.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Made for eachother?

Heh, heh another thing this site is against is the oneitis idealization.

The only thing we can hope for is compatibility not some magical fairytale romance.

And this one is a waste of time as a girlfriend from what he has told us.

The abusive boyfriend story is 9 times out of 10 a load of crap unless she can provide some solid proof of it.

Oh please man spare the drama... REALITY CHECK: Sometimes couples DO work out and they live happy with each other.

Who are YOU to come in here and say something is WRONG?

that's right you are nobody, so don't try to act like you are somebody. Thanks.

 

[KontrollerX]

Oh please man spare the drama... REALITY CHECK: Sometimes couples DO work out and they live happy with each other.

Who are YOU to come in here and say something is WRONG?

that's right you are nobody, so don't try to act like you are somebody. Thanks.

And you are somebody?

Cut the crap kid you're not better than me or anyone else here so kill that noise.

I told the original poster to follow his gut instinct.

And from the sounds of his post it told him some pretty awful things.

The majority of the posters before I posted said the same thing to him.

Why you singled me out to argue with is anyone's guess but I suppose something I said must've made you all butt-hurt.

You don't like my advice go cry in your pillow some more or hit the ignore button which I'm about to do to you.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

And you are somebody?

Yep I'm a billionaire and I get laid with any woman I choose. Choke on that and swallow.