"clothes make the man"
"judged by the company you keep"
"What was your skin colour again?"
Thank you NYtomb, I do have the probolem with avoiding asking myself questions. "What is the benefit?"" is one that I should definitely begin asking myself. When I am not enjoying the situation I ask myself this, and try to make it enjoyable, but there are times when there is NO option. Making a person speechless at times is the only way that anything beneficial will come from a situation, and I can only make them speechless by telling them that they judged me wrong.
I am known as a guy who is always nice, and I surpirse people every time I get argumentative, they know that it is not in my nature. THey don't percieve me as being argumentative, only the person that I am speaking to is bothered by my words, everybody else generally agrees with me, or doesn't give a sh!t.
I speak when it's appropriate to speak in a certain tone. Angry, when I feel I should be angry. Happy, when I think I should be happy. The rest are, well open for judgement. Nobody has ever been able to tell me when I should feel certain feelings except for anger and happiness. I aim for happiness in all situations. Anger is good, because it lets others and myself know, when I am not happy,and that things need to change for the better. I make the best jokes, when somebody puts me on the spot, I flourish under pressure.
I agree with you though, I need to be quiet more often, it's hard though. I don't always know when things are going to blow over, so I expect and plan for the worst. Things may BLOW UP if I don't deal with it now, nip in the bud they say, attack the roots and the weeds will die.
Should I be avoiding these situations, and simply walk away when things get out of hand?
What if I am gaming a woman? On a first impression basis walking away may be beneficial. When it's a day two, an STR, or platonic friends though, things take on another meaning.
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Vulpine, I always thought you were Visceral, I have no idea how I let you slip between the cracks of my mind. Good to meet you
I have the exact same problem with people ranting about things I think are wrong. DO you think that WE are wrong in the WAY that we express ourselves against their beliefs?
That is what I see as the problem.