If a girl is hooking up with me on friday and saturday nights,

[floydb25]

Another thing to add: think about what YOU want, and if it lines up with her desires. Don't just take it slow because it's what she wants - and you following along like a simp. Respect her wishes, but don't make it all about her, out of desperation. Especially if you start feeling iffy about the whole thing, and are confused about her interest in YOU. Or if you're simply not interested in taking it slow. You don't HAVE to do anything, and SHOULD speak up and lay boundaries; respect yourself, and not put yourself in potentially hazardous situations.

That's another point: when people claim to be confused, or whatever - the only one who ends up confused is YOU. But only as a result of desperation, letting them call all the shots, not asserting yourself or valuing yourself as the prize, being a follower who just goes along with everything they say and want, bending over backwards to satisfy their every desire, etc. Not good.

 

[Ringleader41]

Not liking this part. IME, that always translated to low interest, seeking other options, keeping you as a back-up / doormat, etc. Pay close attention to her interest in you. If she acts too friendly, says she's not ready, confused / unsure, not looking for a relationship, LJBF, etc, and doesn't act sexual or show romantic interest - get out. Watch her actions throughout all of this. Especially how she reacts to kissing, dating, close physical contact, etc. And if she's eager to see you, thinking about you, contacting you, etc.

There's a difference between taking it slow and not having much interest - with little reciprocation or initiation on their part.

Girls with high interest aren't not ready or wanting to take it slow; getting to know you first. They just go with the flow, and get to know you AS they're dating you. It happens naturally, and isn't something they usually can control. Passion is passion; it just happens. They don't "say" anything - usually out of fear that you'll lose interest. Following this advice and playing accordingly will almost guarantee a FZ slot. She SHOULD be excited, eager, cant wait to see you again, talking about sex and everything else that occurs during the infatuation bubble. You'll know when you're #1... you won't have to ask. You will be her focus, and there will be a strong emphasis on you and her.

There is no such thing as being confused / afraid about / of one's feelings, either. Either they're attracted or not. Usually they have NO feelings, and are confused about that, if anything.... Especially if they liked you a lot initially.

A girl who has little interest, or loses interest (even if once very high) will want to take it slow, claim to be not ready, blah blah.

But these excuses are almost always used in conjunction with them seeking other options. At least IME.... There was always LI, and someone they liked more, or were already pursuing, or broken up with, or whatever.

It's good to not be negative or pessimistic or jaded, but don't be naive or gullible or oblivious to reality. Don't assume ANYTHING - good or bad. Don't tell yourself she's not like that, is genuine in her intentions, and start acting like an NG dumbass - only to crash and burn. Pay attention to her actions, behaviors, and IL. This isn't the time to start worrying and analyzing everything - lest you start acting insecure, needy, etc, and push her away.

The girl likes me ,but shes not a slut. I agree with what you said though. If she had low interest in me, she wouldnt have let me slapped her face with my **** last night. Nom sayn