"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If a girl finally calls/message back, what should I do?

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Since I have a problem with the girl I like (see my other post "Need some..." I would like some comfort from another girls company.

So tonight this girl messaged me that I have been talking on the phone to, had lunch with twice (I paid the first time, the second time we split since she also had her friend with her).

She messeged "Sorry that I haven't kept in touch! Are you going out to the new club opening tonight?"

As she said, last time I sent a mobile message to her she didn't reply. That was a week ago.

What should I do? My heart says nothing, since I'm not that interested in her. My brain says, **** that idiot, who does she think she are?".

Besides, she had been difficult keeping in touch before.

Any standard advice? When I think of it, there's probably no standard advice to this question. If I'm not interested, don't message back, if I'm interested pretend like nothing or "neg" her by saying something like, "hey, you seem like an ashole, but you are pretty nice anyway, if you behave this time we could meet up before going out tonight. I'm gonna be at the .... bar to take a drink before I go to the club".
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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nothing's a little better than not answering a text message..


call her later... if she asks about the text message be like "my text message box was full maybe i didn't recieve it"
 
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Well, do you like her? Like you say, you could say something like "I'm meeting a friend tonight, but I'll be at [bar] tomorrow night." Then try to meet other women there and if she shows great.
 
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Two good answers.

To be frank, I am in the middle of moving right now so I won't have any time (unless it's very important) until this weekend.

So I might say, "I'm busy until the weekend but then you can meet me at..."

Or I'll just say don't reply at all.

For now I won't reply. Maybe I reply in two days or so with the second one. Maybe that will suit her well ;)

I really hate mind games even though I play them really well. Can't people act and show their true emotions? What a world....
 
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