I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
should you still use this if you're single and a girl asks something like "you seeing anyone?" kinda risky game to play no?Myrrdin said:
A new line in my DJ dictionary.Myrrdin said:
Basically you use it to evade the answer.LoneWolf said:should you still use this if you're single and a girl asks something like "you seeing anyone?" kinda risky game to play no?
New girl asks you this, always make the old gf look good. "She was sweet and I enjoyed my time with her, yet we both thought we'd be better as friends. Crap like that. Whatever you say about the old one will come back to bite you with the one.HappyHarryHardon said:so i have been off facebook a while and i'm back now that i'm single again. so a girl who has always had a thing for me messaged me asking if i broke up with my gf. am i meant to answer that? if so, how would i? just tell her "yes, things didn't work out?" i didn't break up with her actually, she did but it was a mutual break up cause we both knew it wasn't going anywhere.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.