If a chick gets offended by C&F, does that mean she likes you?

[joey2times]

Quick question: I'm friends with this hb8 and the other day I was razzing her about having a slight mustache on her upper lip. She doesn't really have one, but I noticed that she got all freaked out about it and actually went to a spa to have her lip waxed.

I know this is a weird way to look at it, but does her reaction mean that she cares about my opinion? Or that she likes me? Or is she just insecure?


Thanks

 

[PerfectCircle]

creepy dude.

 

[donovan]

That's not ****y and funny. That's just weird.

Try infusing an arrogant statement into humor. That works better. Stay away from physical appearance statements all-together. Focus on personality, fashion and circumstances.

 

[Jaxon]

WA HA HA HA that's awesome.

Honestly though if I was really interested in a girl, I wouldn't play on true insecurities i.e. weight, lip hair, tit size if they're small.

You want them to be able to take it and laugh and give you a playful nudge because of it, not go home crying.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Quick question: I'm friends with this hb8 and the other day I was razzing her about having a slight mustache on her upper lip. She doesn't really have one, but I noticed that she got all freaked out about it and actually went to a spa to have her lip waxed.

I know this is a weird way to look at it, but does her reaction mean that she cares about my opinion? Or that she likes me? Or is she just insecure?


Thanks

In order for something to be ****y and funny both you and the woman have to feel that it was funny.

 

[joey2times]

Ok, I'm not sure what the hell was so "creepy" about it???? but regardless, nobody answered my question.

Francisco, I understand what you're saying, but how do you know if she's going to think it's funny? You can say it in a lighthearted manner, but she still may take offense. Isn't that part of the risk associated with C&F?

My question was, does she at least value my opinion because she took such offense to my remark? If she didn't care at all, I'm assuming it wouldn't have bothered her so much?

 

[DJDamage]

I know this is a weird way to look at it, but does her reaction mean that she cares about my opinion? Or that she likes me? Or is she just insecure?

A) Women cares about everyone's opinion

B) You just insulted her, there was no C&F there since she didn't find it to be funny at all.

You should Stick around she will probably come up with her own C&F, so when you take off your pants she will look at your c0ck for the first time and say " oh my gawed its soo tiny!! hahaha" - now would you freak out?! still like her? or feel insecure??

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Francisco, I understand what you're saying, but how do you know if she's going to think it's funny? You can say it in a lighthearted manner, but she still may take offense. Isn't that part of the risk associated with C&F?

When is an insult ever received as funny? The only time that could happen is if there is a mutual feeling of comfort and familiarity between one another. Without that, a person will more than likely react in a manner which this woman did, out of self consciousness (even if it's not true). Do you feel that she over reacted? Possibly to you but you knew what you meant by the comment. She (not knowing you well enough) took it as she did, literally.

Another thing, you're mixing up c/f with neg-hits; very dangerous territory. Personally, I feel that neg-hits should only be used as an equalizer (if deemed necessary) and shouldn't be a part as ones regular sarging repertoire (unless you choose to only sarge women who place themselves above all others).

One thing I would never do is use any form of c/f or neg-hit toward a woman I was pursuing is to challenge her femininity. Cracks about facial hair, depth of her voice or size of her feet or any other "male like" quality seldom draw a woman closer to you. Now cracks to butch looking, men hating feminazis who could bench press a small truck is fair game IMO.

 

[DJDamage]

Cracks about facial hair, depth of her voice or size of her feet or any other "male like" quality seldom draw a woman closer to you

Agree to some extend but also disagree. See some women are very sensetive and some are not. Some can take a joke and some don't. It also has to do with how you tell the joke and your delivery that makes them love you or hate you. Generally anything regarding facial hair or body fat are conversation killers and should be avoided.

Here is an example of C&F I used on some girl I knew in College:

This chick tells me that she works out alot in the gym and she is so strong now (obviously we are talking about some petite feminine girl with big t1ts and tight ass, that can barley lift 5 lbs dumbell and is not working to bulk up but maintaing a curvious physique)

Me: "Really?" lets see how strong you are flex for me! ( i call her on her bullsh1t to control the frame)

She then flexes her muscle ,while I put my hand over her bicep and squeeze (to get some kino going) and say:

Me: Damn those arms are huge!! (saying it in a way she knows I am joking) are you doing the arnold schwarzenegger workout routine?? Are you going to start "TOOKING LIKE AHHNOLD"??

Her: Nooooo lol (a little bit offended but also a little bit intrigued cause she knows i am poking fun of her but haven't really crossed the line)

Me: I might just have to hire you as my personal body guard (mind you I am 6'3 200 LBS), care to walk me to my car? its a rough neighboorhood.

Her: Your silly ( smiles while playfully smacks me on the top of my shoulder which is the best indicator that my C&F was good and even though I made fun of her, it was pure jokes for the both of us).

Although the more you know someone the more you can and should get away with using C&F in the right way.

 

[Monkey]

C&F used wrong is like playing with fire and can seriously harm you if you don't have a decent understanding of it.

If you have to ask yourself whether she might take it completely the wrong way then don't even bother saying it in the first place.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...If you have to ask yourself whether she might take it completely the wrong way then don't even bother saying it in the first place.

Good advice. But that means that you have to stop and think before you say it. What are the chances?

 

[DonJuan11]

Quick question: I'm friends with this hb8 and the other day I was razzing her about having a slight mustache on her upper lip. She doesn't really have one, but I noticed that she got all freaked out about it and actually went to a spa to have her lip waxed.

I know this is a weird way to look at it, but does her reaction mean that she cares about my opinion? Or that she likes me? Or is she just insecure?

How does putting her down make her like you?

If she told you had too much hair in your ears and nose, would that turn you on?

 

[joey2times]

I guess I was mixing up C&F with neg hits. I don't think I crossed any "line", but I can see how my joke could have been taken as an insult.

What I was really getting at, was if she didn't care what I thought, she wouldn't have been so offended. I've been insulted by ugly bytches before and it had no impact on me because I couldn't give two shyts what they thought.

I may not be explaining this right.

 

[skirtChaser]

ah don't worry about it,......next time just ask her if the "carpet matches the drapes"?

 

[Dilberto]

Like someone else said earlier.....she took it literally.

You assaulted one of her hidden insecurities- facial hair. Do you think upon CLOSER inspection she noticed any......enough to get it waxed?

 

[Lord Shinra]

I think your supposed to use that to get b!tch shields down.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Guys should not joke with women as if they were guys unless they know that the woman will take it as a joke.

 

[The Sperminator]

Dude you have to know how to be ****y funny. Insulting like that is not ****y funny thats just being an ass. Of course she is offended. Doesn't mean she likes you. It's like me going up to a girl and be like hey your face looks messed up and if she gets offended doesn't mean she likes me.

 

[Dongfu]

The sad thing here is now that she waxed her lip, the hair wil grow in a little thicker, and each subsequent time it will get thicker and thicker, until over time she has an out of control beard, and she gets fired from her job and all her friends abandone her, and she gets angry and starts to look more like a man, until she finally decides to have a sex change, and she remembers you and finds you and rapes you with her new posthetic penis. Your doomed man, you might as well get out of the country while you can.