"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Robert28

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heard a new one I've never heard before and thought i'd share. i've been sorta talking to this girl whos from my town and is in Illinois in the Navy. we've known each other for awhile and have just been emailing, texting and talking on the phone back and forth. she isn't coming home til christmas and we were planning to hangout while she was home. well the texting stopped, so did the calling, but she still emails me whenever i email her. doesnt take a genious to figure out that shes met someone. proof? she posted pics of her and some dude on facebook. so i sent an email saying "new boyfriend?:)" and all i got back was "idk maybe". ummm ok? wtf does idk maybe mean? its either yes or no isnt it? now i'm not acting all jealous or anything, i know that it was a long shot to keep her liking me until she came home for christmas and the chances of her meeting someone were high. i just wish shed be like yeah we're dating or no we're not dating. all i emailed her back was "what does idk maybe mean?haha" seriously though, why do girls think we are so stupid and wont give us straight answers? yet they sit around complaing of how guys wont be honest with them and blah blah blah. honesty is a two way street isnt it?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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One-itis. You've got it.

A new boyfriend. She's got one.

Time to next this girl and move on, bud. I know it's not what you want to hear, but it's literally the only cure for the way you're feeling right now. This girl is not worth this amount of worrying over, I guarantee it.
 

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thecurtainfalls said:
One-itis. You've got it.

A new boyfriend. She's got one.

Time to next this girl and move on, bud. I know it's not what you want to hear, but it's literally the only cure for the way you're feeling right now. This girl is not worth this amount of worrying over, I guarantee it.
haha maybe i do have one-itis and didnt know it. truth is i've known this girl for 3 years and this is the second time this crap has happened. we'll talk for awhile but shes too far away for me to do anything about it, even though she comes home sometimes. things will be rolling along and then BAM!, boyfriend. then we'll stop talking for awhile, then start all over. i dont feel bad or anything im just sitting here thinking "[email protected]!?"haha its like she never stays single long for some reason. i was just wondering if i should attempt to hangout with her over christmas since she'll be home or what. depends on if she brings this new romeo home with her ofcourse. whats up with the idk maybe answer when i asked her if that was her new bf? why couldnt she just be likes yes or no. its a simple question qith a one word answer, isnt it?
 

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This is why I only go after women "in the moment".

Texting, emailing, anything regarding the internet is a waste of time.

Women should think you are banging other women, not chumping over them on the internet.
 

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Robert, you don't want to waste your time with this one, man. I know you've invested a lot of time and emotional energy in your interactions with this girl, but that ship has sailed!! Haha, sorry I couldn't resist that pun.

But seriously, this girl has already made her choice, has this new guy, and has basically disrespected your previous interactions with her. So why would you consider validating her for those decisions she's made?

She said "I don't know" because she didn't want to hurt your feelings, or because they themselves haven't defined their relationship yet. But you are very, very close to becoming an "orbiter" and wasting your own valuable time on someone that isn't ready to reciprocate.

Good thing there's another 3 billion women out there!! Sarge on!

Good luck!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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