BramhaBull60
Don Juan
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Hey fellow DJers,
Have not posted here in a while, I check back on this site every once in a while. I've been a member since 2000, back in my dark, lonely, AFCish college days.
Anyway, after reading the DJ bible, working on your game, and getting those numbers you need to find a place to go out too. Here are some tips on places to go. how to find those places, and some places not to go:
Dinner:
The AFC Way: Expensive Dinner
Do not make my mistake and the mistake many other AFC chumps make on the first or second date: The Expensive Dinner. No matter how special she may seem to you at first, or how excited she sounds, there is a 95% chance that she is going to next you if you take her some place fancy too early in the relationship. They'll eat the food, they watch the show, and be polite, but when they get home they will think you that you are a tool for spending that much money on them. It also is unoringinal( women get taken out to nice places all the time) and also pushing to hard to fast.
The DJ Way:
If your grabbing a bite to eat, find a moderately priced, but cool causal place to hang out. I have a Thai place ( among others) that I like to go to because: A) Its relatively inexpensive and b) It has a cool, casual look( Avant Garde kind of place) that looks impressive but not imposing( like candlelit tables). It makes me look sophisticated without going overboard. I also suggest hip coffe bars that serve food and give off that same artsy, sophisticated look. DO NOT USE STARBUCKS IF YOU LIVE IN A BIG CITY. Its the McDonalds of coffe. Be above that, and look for nicer places.
The Activity: AFC Way Movies
Avoid movies on a first date if at all possible. Movies take away from the conversation and also kind of trap the women in a confined place. Wide open spaces are preferable and will make you both comfortable. Plus movies are as typical as a guy brining flowers. Women DO NOT WANT FAMILIARITY. They want something unique.
DJ Way: Unique, Active Date
Museams, dance lessons, and cooking classes have all been awesome in my expirecne in impressing women on that date. These are also great avenues to start using kino. This is a chance for you to show that you are sophisticated as well as keeping your body and minds active. Intelligence and talent are signs of strength. Too often we look at a musclebound guy and think wow that is strength. But how many of those gym rats( no offense guys, I think keeping in shape is awesome and I am picking on the those who are AFC gym rats) also use intelligence and talent to show that they are the alpha male? Cooking, Dancing, and knowing your way around a museum is as much a sign of strength to women, and also is a lot of fun if you give it a chance.
ALso, and this is gold for me too, keep yourself on Young Professional listserves if you live in a large city or pick up a local arts paper. Always look at events going on in your area and plan ahead for potential dates for the next few weeks. This will make you look like that guy who knows places, who has his finger on the pulse of whats going in his city, and women find that exciting. Women want a man to pick the place and impress her. Its your job to show her how you are different from the 9 other chumps shes dating. You will look spontaneous while you have actually planned ahead.
Good luck guys.
Have not posted here in a while, I check back on this site every once in a while. I've been a member since 2000, back in my dark, lonely, AFCish college days.
Anyway, after reading the DJ bible, working on your game, and getting those numbers you need to find a place to go out too. Here are some tips on places to go. how to find those places, and some places not to go:
Dinner:
The AFC Way: Expensive Dinner
Do not make my mistake and the mistake many other AFC chumps make on the first or second date: The Expensive Dinner. No matter how special she may seem to you at first, or how excited she sounds, there is a 95% chance that she is going to next you if you take her some place fancy too early in the relationship. They'll eat the food, they watch the show, and be polite, but when they get home they will think you that you are a tool for spending that much money on them. It also is unoringinal( women get taken out to nice places all the time) and also pushing to hard to fast.
The DJ Way:
If your grabbing a bite to eat, find a moderately priced, but cool causal place to hang out. I have a Thai place ( among others) that I like to go to because: A) Its relatively inexpensive and b) It has a cool, casual look( Avant Garde kind of place) that looks impressive but not imposing( like candlelit tables). It makes me look sophisticated without going overboard. I also suggest hip coffe bars that serve food and give off that same artsy, sophisticated look. DO NOT USE STARBUCKS IF YOU LIVE IN A BIG CITY. Its the McDonalds of coffe. Be above that, and look for nicer places.
The Activity: AFC Way Movies
Avoid movies on a first date if at all possible. Movies take away from the conversation and also kind of trap the women in a confined place. Wide open spaces are preferable and will make you both comfortable. Plus movies are as typical as a guy brining flowers. Women DO NOT WANT FAMILIARITY. They want something unique.
DJ Way: Unique, Active Date
Museams, dance lessons, and cooking classes have all been awesome in my expirecne in impressing women on that date. These are also great avenues to start using kino. This is a chance for you to show that you are sophisticated as well as keeping your body and minds active. Intelligence and talent are signs of strength. Too often we look at a musclebound guy and think wow that is strength. But how many of those gym rats( no offense guys, I think keeping in shape is awesome and I am picking on the those who are AFC gym rats) also use intelligence and talent to show that they are the alpha male? Cooking, Dancing, and knowing your way around a museum is as much a sign of strength to women, and also is a lot of fun if you give it a chance.
ALso, and this is gold for me too, keep yourself on Young Professional listserves if you live in a large city or pick up a local arts paper. Always look at events going on in your area and plan ahead for potential dates for the next few weeks. This will make you look like that guy who knows places, who has his finger on the pulse of whats going in his city, and women find that exciting. Women want a man to pick the place and impress her. Its your job to show her how you are different from the 9 other chumps shes dating. You will look spontaneous while you have actually planned ahead.
Good luck guys.
