"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ideal Weight

Metaphysical

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What's your ideal weight?

Where are you now?

Have you noticed any changes in the way people treat you since you started body building?

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I am 6'1 and at 182lbs.

4 years ago in my senior year in high school I was 130 lbs @ the same height.

Last summer I was only 160lbs due to a bad flu that lasted two months.

Even compared to last summer, I notice women react much more submissive to me now. I have a lot more control and they obey me.

Goal is 190 for my height. I like a balance between size and health.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Rampage1

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I suppose everyones ideal weight is different due to their physical makeup. However, at 5, 7" I would like to be 170 with a six pack :)
 

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I am 5'10", 175 lbs. Have seen some charts that suggest I'm overweight but I don't buy that. I work out regularly so I have a fair amount of muscle. I do wish my abs were better but love handles are hard to get rid of, especially when one has an affinity for beer.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ThreeStorms

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194cm (around 6'4''), 87 kg (192 lbs), goal that I carry around for years now is 95kg (210 lbs) at current BF.
My highest was around 92kg, had some fat deposits than. Girls responded very positively though and always wanted to touch muscles despite them not being very impressive ;)
Short term goal is 200lbs, will look good naked then but still very average with clothes on.

Before disovering working out and eating right, I was a beautiful stick at 160lbs.
 

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I am the same as three storms. Around 6'3 and 205 pounds right now. I am pretty low bodyfat around 10%. The problem is that once you reach your goal you always want more. The thing i notice is that I am never satisfied with my arms. Got to really get them bigger.
 

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I'm 5'8" and 147 pounds right now which seems fairly ideal for me. I'm down to 7% bodyfat. :up:

I swim a lot (used to be a competitive swimmer in HS) so I'm very toned, but definitely not big. I don't feel the need to get really big, I get enough compliments on my physique as it is.
 

020204

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Being happy in your own skin is important. I'm 5''8 in clothes and have been as heavy as 82 kg or 13 stone, sure I looked big in the arms and in clothes, in terms of definition, I definetly look far better at 10 and a half stone, that is where my cardio is really good and my abs are more pronounced. I was around 10-12 % BF at 75-76 kg and looked fairly big in clothes with ok definition, and even did ladies nights as a male waiter/entertainer. I can honestly say, that women prefer a toned look, having experienced being very muscular, I feel you attract better quality women when you are toned. That is my experience. Plus you feel a lot healthier.:yes:
 

frenchbeauty

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6'0 185lbs , started at 6'0 140lbs... Aiming for 195-200lbs
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cure

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5' 10" or so.
Was 135lb or so for a long time, then went up to about 147lb 6 months ago.
Currently going on 160lb, but I've got a long way to go.

My goal was always to hit 165lb, but Im pretty close to that. 200lb would be to much, So I guess my aim is to get to about 13 stone/83kg, that would be, I feel, somthing close to my ideal weight given my athletic goals.

Cure.
 

Evzone

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It absolutely helps to be bigger. I seem to have been in a similar situation as the OP. I was always tall, and also always skinny through high school. My driver's license (info never updated since I got it) that I'm 6'0" and 145. I am now 6'1" and 180 through lifting. I've definitely seen improvement.

I'm a recent college grad, and I hit 180 about my sophomore year. I've maintained that weight but lowered my body fat percentage. I'm trying to get bigger, and I'm trying to break through a plateau right now. I definitely noticed an improved reaction from girls even in high school when I started lifting in my senior year. When I hit 160 from where I started, a cute girl that I knew told me that I seemed buffer.

Keep at it.
 

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5' 9" and a 135lbs. Would like to be 175.

Very hard for me to put on weight but I'm sticking to it. Was a time when I was 110 lbs at the same height! Felt like a medium gust of wind would blow me away.
 

Being_the_Don

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5'8" and 155 - 158 pounds is where I feel most comfortable. A few times I've strayed on my eating habits and went up to 170s. It's important to maintain low body fat and have a developed physique and lots of strength. :)
 

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5'8" normally sit around 170-180. I'm in the best shape aesthetically when I'm around 165. Love being in the high 170s and relatively lean. Weight to me doesn't really mean a whole lot. Its more about how you look/feel, performance and natural progression.

Currently sitting a bit over 175.

Yes. I feel a lot more confident at shows, in the gym, etc when I'm in shape. I've been working out for a long time, so I don't really remember how I was treated differently when I was skinny. Definitely treated more sexually now than when I was skinny/out of shape.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Colossus

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6'0'' usually walk around at 225-230.

My ideal, or target weight is about 245. Once I get there I'll see how it feels and reevaluate.

When I first started lifting and gained a bunch of weight in the first year, I noticed a huge difference in the way people treated me. Girls thought I was hot and guys talked to me with respect. It kind of increases with size, except I think once you get over that 250 lb mark you appeal to a narrower range of girls. That seems to be when the "too big" thing comes into play. Chicks these days like that gay "toned" look, where you obviously are in shape but still wear a medium t-shirt. :p

It's relative, though; because to a normal person a guy who is a muscular 245 is pretty freaking huge. In powerlifting and football, that's still no small fry but no one is in awe of your size. But anytime I hang out with my non-lifting friends they all think I'm huge, and that never gets old :D
 

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Im 6'2" at 235 lbs and I would definitely have to agree with everything colossus said. My goal is just 5 more pounds.

It's weird though, I know Im bigger but I actually do not feel bigger than when I weighed 190 lbs. Body fat is still the same which might have something to do with it. But judging from other people's reactions, I know there's a difference.
 
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