crazyman11 said:
Alright, i dunno why, but i feel like asking this girl who is obviously into me out this way. When the time is right, I'll say "So.... When are you gonna get to the point and ask me out?" and then give a nice grin after. Should I do that, or just do the normal "what are you doing this weekend" thing? What would be the more Dj thing to do? I like my idea because it's original(kinda), but I'm giving her control. So what do you guys think?
P.S. I'm in high school
What's up man,
Well,let's see. You want to know how to ask her out. It sure would be easier to determine if you had given us a little background first, like how long you've known her,how often the two of you see/talk to each other,what
exactly do the two of you talk about,etc.
Anyway,I looked at what you had suggested,and I must say that it's total
CRAP!!! Are you crazy? Dude,you've been here longer than I have,you should know better than this. Haven't you read the DJbible before?
Alright,I got that out,I'm calm now. Back to your question.
That thing you said about "So are you going to get to the point and ask me out" is advice that YOU YOURSELF should have taken towards her a long time ago. Don't say that to her. Generally speaking,it is the MEN who ask out the women,not the other way around. Plus,if this girl is attractive,she probably has guys hitting on her all the time,so why would she feel the need to risk rejection when she already has so many options available to her?
Also,saying to her,"So,what are you doing this weekend?",you said that it's original. I agree. It's original. Originally boring. You're going to say to her the same thing that a thousand other guys before you has already said? Oh yeah,that'll win her over. And that last thing you said about giving her "control"? Come on man, I shouldn't have to tell you this,you should know better.
Alright,I've beat up on you long enough. This is what I would suggest you do:
Get in a conversation with her. While you're talking to her,mention something to her about what YOU'RE GOING TO BE DOING over the weekend,then change the subject,and talk about something else. Then,when you get to the end of the conversation,and the two of you are about to go your seperate ways,you say to her,"Oh hey,you know that I said that I'm going to be going to (whatever you mentioned earlier) this weekend. I'm only going to be up there for a couple of hours. Come up there and hang out with me".
DON'T ASK HER. Don't say,"Hey would you like to....(whatever)". TELL HER to come and hang out with you.
Also,you stay in control. You set the time. If she says that she can't make it,and suggest another day,you tell her that's fine,but YOU are still going to go (wherever you said) like you had oringinally planned in the first place.
This let's her know that you are in control of your life,and you're not going to alter or change your plans just because she couldn't make it.
This is what I would suggest you do. Like I said earlier,it would be a lot easier to determine a course of action if you had given a little background info first,but since you didn't this is what I would try.
