I'd respond in that other thread...

[CapedCrusader08]

But it's closed. You're right, I come on here for attention, but the need to fix this is very real to me. Today was just another bad day of longing and emptiness as I walked around the city after school, I stole, yes stole as in not payed for, a copy of the game from a bookstore, perhaps that will motivate me enough.

 

[Sandow]

someone please ban him

 

[crazymedstudent]

while I don't condone stealing I think that you should use the weekdays to go over "the game" and then try to incorporate small things into your everyday life. If you take a small step each week, no matter how small, eventually those steps add up.

make a tiny goal. DO that tiny goal tomorrow. think about the positives of what you did and continue to grow.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

well, I will try. But, the negative counteracts with the positive, and I am addicted to making myself feel bad and worthless.

I mean, I go out, just to not be at home,lounging around,wishing I was someone else, somewhere else, I see many attractive women, I guess I just can't pull the trigger and don't have it, which it was has always seemingly eluded me, what the "naturals" have, that I do not seemingly possess, I wonder how much of this comes from my own world view.

today,at the bookstore, I saw at least 3 9's, this one in particular,goddamn. I don't know, is it fear of rejection,anxieties about my own inexperience, feeling unatractive? Why was it then,and now, I just can't do it? All the other guys,and girls, were seemingly figuring this out, what did I miss?

 

[theunflushables]

well, I will try. But, the negative counteracts with the positive, and I am addicted to making myself feel bad and worthless.

Well there we have it. How are we supposed to help you if you're addicted to making yourself feel bad. That's like helping a Heroin addict live his life without him kicking the habit.

We can't help you until you break your addiction. Otherwise you will destroy all the work and effort we put in to helping you.

So, take some time go see a professional about your self-worth issues and come back when you're ready. If that is something you are not willing to do, please leave. We don't want you here if you are not going to dedicate time and effort to improving yourself.

Seriously stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are not some special delicate snowflake. You are not the only one who has feelings of inadequacy. You only feel like you're the special one because no one talks about their issues. That HB9 you saw in the bookstore, could have a huge mole on her tit that she is self-conscious about or maybe she thinks she's too fat or too thin or too hairy. Who knows? We all have our issues and thats how it is. So get it out of your head that YOU missed out and you're not like THEM.

Also stop saying you will try. There is no such thing as "try". You either do it or you don't.

And don't come back with a response like "I will do this, but...". No more negations. You will do this or you won't. The choice is yours. But if you choose not to take that step and stay in your little miserable shell, don't come to us for help.