I'd like to know....

[Caesar20]

has anyone here, that's been more or less completely asocial (nerd......), came out of it?
and i'm not talking ascoail as ""i've just moved to another town, i don't know anyone here and it's been a week already""

 

[GloriouslyInsane]

Well i'll give you some advise,during HS i "knew" alot of people but had only a few friends.I wasn't a nerd but more a serial killer type .It is my firm belief that most people are stupid and everyone in my HS tremendously immature.After HS and learning the importance of social value in SS i tried to get to know alot of people,fast forward 1.5 year i know a ****load of people but really it annoys me sometimes.Key is to know a bit about everything and be able to "read" people,guess their hobbies and talk to them about what interests them.Be polite,light and have an arsenal of good one liners and wits.Don't fall into the trap of giving too much attention to people u use as pivots or whatever cause they will start calling you and **** all the time and it will become terribly annoying.

 

[Nexxus]

simple answer
yes
but not just because of this site

 

[HoneyHitter]

Don't fall into the trap of giving too much attention to people u use as pivots or whatever cause they will start calling you and **** all the time and it will become terribly annoying.

Heed this advice.

Learn how to "read" people as good as possible before ending up with violent criminal "friends". NEVER give guys the benefit of the doubt when "reading" them. Test them before you befriend them. Trust your instincts.

 

[gherald]

well not nerd but asocial...

im not intersted in making friends or whatsoever until i realized that i shud be making friends...well, it was almost instant...you just need an inner motivation...

 

[Caesar20]

how talkative are you all? what was your growing up time like?
are any of you constantly on the internet (as in addicted)?

my prob is that i can't open myself up to the people and that i'm insanely introverted.
i have a couple of friends from elementary school that ive been hanging on them ever since (finished college now), they are nerds also.

anyone else?

 

[GloriouslyInsane]

I have all kind of friends and acquaintances like nerds,rockers,preps,gymrats,whackos.As said trick is to be a jack of all trades and know a bit about every subject.

 

[diablo]

Moved to AE...

 

[rrrrr]

yes, it's easy to make friends at work as well, just start hanging out with people that you kinda get along with. to be honest i have had very little friends all my life, i didn't really have a problem with it, and just recently found the importance of it. my problem was, i grew up in a bad part of town, and was like 1 of 4 white guys in my neighborhood. so as i started to realize it's important to have a healthy social network. i started making them, after you have a few, it gets easier. you can't just call the same guy over and over as your friend, you have to have a few. just find people you joke around alot with and can talk, be on the same page with. a dude that listens to mozart and discusses politics, will most likely not interest a headbanger that does drugs, and says f# america....,

just find people you "click" with and pursue the friendship. one of my new buddies is kinda "preppy yuppy" type, sometimes he'll joke about me kinda acting like a hillbilly, which, compared to him, i am, but we still get along really well though.

fyi, i was insanely introverted, as well. it's something you grow out of, as time goes on, but you have to push yourself. the most important thing is building confidence. if you're invited somewhere, GO TO IT. if someone says there's a party do you want to go, then GO! my problem was i would say no. then go play games on the computer. i was satisfied with it. but not anymore.

Edit: I looked back on here, and saw that some people try to be sort of a chamelion, like you have the stoner friends that act a certain way, try to copy them, then go to the hip hop guys and act hip hop. this is an extreme exaggeration but it's basically what is being said... I don't agree with this. if you don't like certain type of people, just avoid them. i've had enough troublemakers in my life, i don't need anymore. it's amazing how beneficial it is to meet QUALITY people, because they will also know QUALITY people you can also meet, so you will have a network of likeminded people.


good luck cesar, it takes work, but it can be done... just find some people you like, and when they invite you somewhere, DO IT! also, you can ask them if you can join them.

 

[Caesar20]

often the problem is not about not going (well, except _now_ when i'm kinda afraid), the problem is that even if i go, i am quiet all teh time. and if i talk too much, i feel insecure, like that's not me, i told them too much about myself, i am boring (that's a fact actually), i am dumb.... and am either completey ignored or i overdo it (the ""phunney"" saying, making fun of sth...). i also get the idea that im dumb and when there are females, i get a complex, because im a virgin. and what would happen if id get layed (not to mention that that never happens, not even remotely close, nor i dont have DJ skills)