Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Meet this Hot Iceland girl today at a coffee shop.I have tommorrow off work.
Should I text her to do something then ? or should I wait a few days to get in contact with her.Also it's Valentine's day soon as well :)

What do you think is the smart thing to do :rock:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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When you met her, did you see that she had interest in you?
How did the Number close go, was their interest , some details into how you met her and what was said may help.

But to answer your broader question.
The correct thing to do without information given to us/me would be to wait a few days. Valentines day? haha, I laugh at that. Wait 3 days. If she has your number and she text' you first, you IN:):box:
 

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Ll Principe said:
When you met her, did you see that she had interest in you?
How did the Number close go, was their interest , some details into how you met her and what was said may help.

But to answer your broader question.
The correct thing to do without information given to us/me would be to wait a few days. Valentines day? haha, I laugh at that. Wait 3 days. If she has your number and she text' you first, you IN:):box:
The number close went well.She said just take mine so I called her to double check it was right,so now she's gotmine as well :)

I work at the coffee shop.She came with a another girl and a guy who was the boyfriend of the another girl !

She said she was looking for a part -time job I helped her out with ideas.

I was friendly and talked to all 3 of them.The one with the boyfriend keep smiling at me ! The Iceland girl came over to me to order some more drinks,and was right in my face :wave:

I went away for a while to do some things.When I came back they were about to leave.I saw the Icelang girl tying to walk slowly in my direction.
I then went in for the number :box:
 

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Ll Principe said:
When you met her, did you see that she had interest in you?
How did the Number close go, was their interest , some details into how you met her and what was said may help.

But to answer your broader question.
The correct thing to do without information given to us/me would be to wait a few days. Valentines day? haha, I laugh at that. Wait 3 days. If she has your number and she text' you first, you IN:):box:
Just sent her a text
Hey sexy[smile]how's it going ?[smile] when do want to hookup ?[smile] jon

Was this cool:)
 

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From your reply to my post it seems like she is interested in you.
Did you wait 3 days like I said?
The text message sounds pretty cool, also it shows that you are interested in her aswell which gives herself a bit of "play bait."

Otherwise, let me know her response and how things go:)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ll Principe said:
From your reply to my post it seems like she is interested in you.
Did you wait 3 days like I said?
The text message sounds pretty cool, also it shows that you are interested in her aswell which gives herself a bit of "play bait."

Otherwise, let me know her response and how things go:)
I waited 2 1/2 days :)

Her response was:

Hi there,just anytime...I'm going out 2 nite though[smile]what about U ?

How long should I wait to reply ?
 

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Go ahead and reply any time. Tell her, "Im free on Friday around 6. Lets hang out out then, hows that sound?"
 

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Charm said:
Go ahead and reply any time. Tell her, "Im free on Friday around 6. Lets hang out out then, hows that sound?"
My text back was

I'm free on Friday,finish work at 6pm[smile]let's hang out then ![smile] jon

cool :cool:
 

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johncrawford said:
My text back was

I'm free on Friday,finish work at 6pm[smile]let's hang out then ![smile] jon

cool :cool:
I have'nt got a reply 24 hours latter is this bad :confused:
 

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I have'nt got a reply 24 hours latter is this bad :confused:
I have a feeling, she may turn up to my work at 6pm ! :crackup:

What do you guys think :D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Don't worry about it. Whatever you do, DO NOT send her another text message. The ball is in her court, if she doesn't reply, her loss, NEXT. If you send her another message you come off as a whole lot of bad things.
 

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Mind_Body_Soul said:
Don't worry about it. Whatever you do, DO NOT send her another text message. The ball is in her court, if she doesn't reply, her loss, NEXT. If you send her another message you come off as a whole lot of bad things.
I wouldn't dream of sending another text message :kick:
 

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johncrawford said:
I wouldn't dream of sending another text message :kick:
I lied I did!
Caught the wrong bus back from home so had time on my side.So deceided to text her.I am a clever boy it turns out :up:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The_Wolf said:
So why is everyone upset with you texting her? :D

Good job man.
It turned out she texted me but her phone was playing up !

Soon as I got home I called her.She sounded a bit ill to be honest.

We still talked for a long while.She said her voice was stating to go.So I said I'll let you be then.Then she said no i'll be alright to talk some more !:rock:
 

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You come across as a very desperate chump who puts too much stock in one chick. You should benefit from this board by learning the art.

I frankly don't care how many times she text'd you. You have already given her way too much power.
 

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Royal-tiger said:
You come across as a very desperate chump who puts too much stock in one chick. You should benefit from this board by learning the art.

I frankly don't care how many times she text'd you. You have already given her way too much power.
This is your point of view country boy

I was just filling in time on the bus :)

Take a chill pill please sir:box:
 

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Royal-tiger said:
You come across as a very desperate chump who puts too much stock in one chick. You should benefit from this board by learning the art.

I frankly don't care how many times she text'd you. You have already given her way too much power.
Will I still be a chump tomorrow, when I go on the surge at work.

Saturday is always ladies day at the coffee shop :yes:

The iceland girl is very nice but is a bit shy.Longest boyfriend is 8 months she told me.

I want a nice girl for good things and a bad girl for naughty things:rockon:

Is this so bad:rolleyes:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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