"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Icebreakers at halloween party?

jcb1772

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Well I'm going to a fairly large halloween party tomorrow...lots of people from school will be there in costumes, including a girl I like but hardly ever talk to. Parties are usually a good time to approach a girl...so I was thinking I could at this one (even though I'll be somewhat of a gangsta pirate lol). I'm sure everyone will be joking with each other about their costumes and stuff, so the mood will be perfect. Only problem is I still haven't come up with anything I can say without seeming overly obvious, stupid, etc.

Any suggestions for icebreakers or things to say upon this approach?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Smooth Player 056

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If she is wearing a costume such as a witch, hooker etc....you can say "OMG you have NO spirit....why arent you in costume?"

~Smooth
 

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if i were you, i would just approach her while shes in a group with a few people you know, so that youll have other people to joke around with and be more confident. just an idea, but goodluck with that.
 

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Yeah, I may just go up to her while she's with her friends...ie approaching her small group as opposed to her alone.

smooth, that comment is great...not sure if she'd get it right away though (it took me a sec...maybe I'm slow :p ). Some other ideas I had was just saying "hey so what are you (guys) supposed to be?" or just "hey, how' you doing?"

But something more clever/C&F would be good...I'm not creative at coming up with those...any other ideas?
 

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Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
If she is wearing a costume such as a witch, hooker etc....you can say "OMG you have NO spirit....why arent you in costume?"

~Smooth
Am I the only one who thought that was funny as hell? It would defiantely work!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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