"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ice Breaker

DJ McBuster

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I need to find a new ice breker for my mac.You see I can handle the cold approach and I have a killer hot approach but my middle level mac is weak. So what I'm asking is how should I go after the we sorta know each other types. I mean I don't want to introduce myself and ask them silly questions but I don't know them well enough to just talk about wahtever so I need an appraoch.I know my DJ skills can handle it, but I just need something to grab their attention an hold it...So I asking for your best ice breaker for a female you know but have not shown intrest in yet, until now...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Bourne

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Whats been working rather good for me recently is commenting on the environment we happen to be in or commenting something about them.

"I couldn't help but notice ..." or "Do you think ...?"
 

Climax

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hmm...

If you kinda know this chick then just say something like "So what we doing this week-end?:p" <--- Normally you will be able to ell if she is interested by her response....

Otherwise, if its just a normal conversation, then speak about things that will make her feel happy... Example: A dream holiday, does she believe in love? , a hobby that she does (i.e.: dancing), ask her where she likes partying/chilling etc, so at the same time as making good conversation with her, you are also learning more about her so that you can use this information to your benefit in the future.

Anyways, besides for this.... You don’t need to stress yourself out about this little stuff, all you are doing is making it more complicated that it needs to be to hook up with a girl... Overall, all you really need to do is make her enjoy herself when being in your company (regardless of what u speak about), and you need to make sure that IL is high, which it will be if you are charming, flirtatious, and confident...

Hope this helped...


Laterz...
 

Tomatoes

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DJ McBuster said:
I need to find a new ice breker for my mac.You see I can handle the cold approach and I have a killer hot approach but my middle level mac is weak. So what I'm asking is how should I go after the we sorta know each other types. I mean I don't want to introduce myself and ask them silly questions but I don't know them well enough to just talk about wahtever so I need an appraoch.I know my DJ skills can handle it, but I just need something to grab their attention an hold it...So I asking for your best ice breaker for a female you know but have not shown intrest in yet, until now...
Im the same. I HATE cold approaching....not scared..I just see it as a little rude. Like Telesales. I have slept with every good looking girl who has frindged my "friends group". I have become very adept at it. Basically what you need to do is think how you know this girl. What social link do you have with her? How do you know her? That is always an easy ice breaker and you dont look like your trying to pick her up from square one.

Examples.

You know her from school?
Ask her a question about school.

You know her threw a friend of yours (Most common for me)
Ask them how they know that person. Where they met and ****. Then you can move onto her telling you about yourself...blah blah fluff and your off..

This works. I have only failed twice...i was being greedy. Trying to pull both girls at the same time :D . Plus the friend in our group had warned them about me :woo: and they had ****blocks bigger than the Great Wall of China so were easy to next.
 
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