"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'am sick and tired of this Crap......

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Of being an AFC. I've been an AFC my entire life, and I'am sick and tired of it. Now dont get me wrong ive had girl friends before. But none of them I ever really wanted, well expcept for one which I recently broke up with after almost 3 years. Im not a virgin by any means (though I doubt any of you care about that.) I'm just never happy with my love life really.

All of the girls that I REALLY want and go after give me the good old LJBF crap for different reasons.

Girl one: Met in high school, complete AFC to her. Got obsessed about her and it ended HORRIBLY.

Girl 2: Also during high school, once again complete AFC on her also.

Girl 3: Liked me but had a BF, never able to get with her. Though hes told me she was in love with me.

Girl 4: Was a co-worker, Got her number, it was around valentines day, write her a poem that I spent hours on. Go to a party and find her making out with another guy from work right infront of me.

Got a gf was together for a year, lost virginity at age 19.

Girl 5: Girl liked me, I liked girl. Went AFC and lost it.

Girl 6: This one I really liked, got her number we talked on the phone once. Never hung out with her, found out she liked another co worker. Rejected me.

Girl 7: This.......*sigh* gave me the LJBF when we FIRST HUNG OUT! Yet I still talk to her to this day. Hoping just HOPING I could get with her.

Why is it that the girls I REALLY LIKE never seem to like me back? Cuz I'm an AFC. Im always nice, always everything that basically you guys feel is taboo and now finally (dont know why it took this damn long) I'm tired of it.

I dont want to be an AFC anymore......it pains me when I think of this stuff. I just cant take it anymore. Some one help me, point me in the right direction, tell me what I need to do.

This a rant I'am aware of this I hjust had to get it off my chest.......:cuss:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i feel your pain... sitting here wondering why the hell i'm not succeeding... my problem is that i'm lazy, i don't have a job and i'm not even trying to get one... i know what i need to do now, i need to get off my lazy ass and get real about life before its too late.
 

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Here is the paradox - the more time, effort, money and mental energy that you spend in attempts to gain approval and acceptance by women, the less you will succeed.

The key here is to build yourself into a guy who just magnetically attracts women by virtue of his 'value'.
 

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Couple of questions.

How old are you? Why did you break up with your girlfriend? What does AFC mean to you?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Spirit_Fingers said:
Some one help me, point me in the right direction, tell me what I need to do.
READ THE BIBLE! No one will teach you how not to be AFC! You wrote a poem for god's sake! :p Just read the bible!
 

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Maxtro said:
Couple of questions.

How old are you? Why did you break up with your girlfriend? What does AFC mean to you?
Im 23, I broke up with my gf to move back Southern California to be with my family (orgininally from las vegas) and get my life together, AFC to me means a guy that trys to hard to be nice. He thinks that always being there for a girl and such will actually help him get the girl. Acting like shes the only girl hes ever seen.

At least thats what I think it means outside of Average frustrated chump
 

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OK, you're older than I thought you were. I was also thinking that your last GF dumped you which would have helped give some insight. Moving away is a very valid reason.

I don't really know if being too nice is AFC or your problem. Do you go out of your way to please people?

BTW you probably shouldn't hang out with girl 7 anymore. I'm sure you know you are hurting yourself.
 

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i know whats ur problem...u don't pay attention to detail. you're just like "i liked her, and she didn't like me back" this is not kindergarten, it's not i like you do you like me anymore. on top of all that, you've only liked 7 girls... and now you're complaining... try the 100's and 1000's that people have tried and failed. i don't know man, i don't know if there's any hope but i trust god.
 

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You are not attractive enough to females

Look better (work out and get your body in shape and wear better clothes)

Make more money

Girls will come to looks and money
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Man, get a hold of yourself. Writing on a forum won't give you life experience. Get out there, take some guitar lessons, take some dance lessons, anything to keep your mind from the fact that you more than likely are a loser, but let go of the past cause the past wont let go of you'
 

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Funlol said:
You are not attractive enough to females

Look better (work out and get your body in shape and wear better clothes)

Make more money

Girls will come to looks and money
Combine this and what your Uncle jophil said!

Rantin' about being an AFC ain't gonna do sh*t for this problem.
 
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