I would like to discuss with you about the dynamics on tinder

[Who Dares Win]

There are so many things to say about it that I dont even know where to begin.

So basically the norm is to match with someone only to have the girl be silent (unless dangerously ugly) waiting for the guy to talk and the guy either talking and remaining unanswered most of the times or not talking at all if he finds out the girl is not that hot.

Dont get me wrong I perfectly fit this example, I swipe right to all girls simply because 3 seconds spent looking at pics (let alone reading a boring poem as bio) of girls that probably wont even match me are wasted seconds.

So when I match with some hottie she hardly replies and if she does its short brief sentences which give no contribution or help to the conversation.

Other times I match girls that now get my attention regarding their pictures and bios, then after noticing their ugly faces and obnoxious bios I simpy dont bother to write..they dont either ofc.

But what I find the most annoying things are girls that put random pictures, either selfies or the classical picture with drinks then they either dont fill their bio or they fill with the request of avoiding casual opening like "hi, how are you"...wtf Im supposed to say if your pics are lame and you have no bio?

Of course its normal to find dog filter in their selfies, black and white pics, love travelling lines, tatoos and the overwhelming "im not looking for a ons so swipe left if you do".

Cant really comment about guys since I check girls profiles.

Anyway wtf is the point of keeping a match if you dont like the guy and dont plan to answer nor partecipating in the convo? ego boost to keep in a closet?

 

[The Duke]

Yep its for ego/validation purposes. Its their hit of crack for when their 5 faKebook orbiters take the day off.

Here is a rule you should take to heart......a girl that is truly interested will make it very easy. You will have no doubt she is interested. She won't play any games. She will be eager to reply and highly concerned with saying the right thing. She will contact her best female/male friend for recommendations on the perfect thing to say back to you.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Yep its for ego/validation purposes. Its their hit of crack for when their 5 faKebook orbiters take the day off.

Here is a rule you should take to heart......a girl that is truly interested will make it very easy. You will have no doubt she is interested. She won't play any games. She will be eager to reply and highly concerned with saying the right thing. She will contact her best female/male friend for recommendations on the perfect thing to say back to you.

Agree on that, this one is the real golden rule and to gauge it the best bet is listening at your gut.
They can bullsh1t our brains but they cant bullsh1t our gut...no sign or observation the only test of their interest is the feedback we get from our gut

 

[devilkingx2]

ignore profiles with girls who say they don't want hookups, ignore profiles with girls that don't have a good amount of pictures of themselves where they look good, etc.

then just start with "hey" or something else that's simple, otherwise start with some joke you thought of that's applicable to every situation, I used to go with a true story:

"One time, I walked straight into a pole because the girls' lacrosse team at my college was practicing and I got distracted"

it sets me up as a funny guy who's just a little perverted and absent minded, those things are all true, if a girl doesn't respond I know there's something wrong with her so I'm glad I don't have to talk to her.

personalize your conversation but personalizing your greeting is absolutely pointless, plenty of girls won't respond or will fizzle out quickly so it'd be a waste of time to come up with some custom clever/insightful greeting for each and every match

 

[AttackFormation]

I can't confirm it, but if you swipe right to all girls tinder might lower your (probably already low, considering you're a dude) visibility.

I downloaded tinder about two weeks ago, and I'm considered to be good looking from what people tell me. My profile has 4 pictures, only one (at the beach) of which is taken by me, and some quick banter in the bio. I don't swipe right on every profile, but I do swipe right on a lot of them. I've got 6 matches. Wrote to 5. 2 replied. 1 keeps talking. That's with hundreds and hundreds of likes and a few superlikes.

I think the best way to get women is still what we suspect: to already know or be known by them, and if that isn't the case, to regularly be in their social proximity. Tinder probably won't cut it unless you really have something that stands out about you like model-level picture preparation and looks. Also, don't pay any attention to them saying stuff like "say more than hi" in their profiles, it's just bs. They themselves don't even write and they'll still sort messages by how hot the sender is, not what he says. Saying more than "hey, whats up!" in your initial message is just a waste of brain power you could've saved for another purpose that day.

 

[devilkingx2]

I can't confirm it, but if you swipe right to all girls tinder might lower your (probably already low, considering you're a dude) visibility.

iirc it's confirmed that you can't just always swipe right but idk what exactly they do to you if you try it

 

[sazc]

when it comes to online, starting with "hey" or "hello" is good enough. if she is attracted to your pictures/profile, she will reply. if you are going to OLD, IMO, OLD is best taken/worked from the standpoint of send one simple message to many females and see who bites.