I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your reason?DJVladdy said:I would like to become a moderator
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You are a lot closer to the actual process than you think. Minus the cash anyway.Maxtro said:Heh I thought about being a mod on occasion, simply to get rid of the trash that often collects here.
There should be be moderator audtions, where each person who wants to be a mod should post why they want to be a mod, and how they plan to make sosuave a better place. Then everybody who wants to be a mod has to pack a suitcase and they move into a mansion. They are divided into teams and forced to undergo challenges. Whom ever is left standing at the end can become a moderator or takes the $10,000 grand prize.
What! There is no cash prize?! Fine, I'll hang up my pimp cane and go back home.Heart Break Kid said:You are a lot closer to the actual process than you think. Minus the cash anyway.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Actually none of us like Heart Break Kid, but we put up with him because he's a great troll catcher.j0n024 said:But seeing as how society works they (MODS) will pick someone they LIKE as opposed to picking someone better suited for the job...
j0n024 said:The mods now are very very lazy and I think they should be changed or at least put some ACTIVE members on the mod board.
If only we were allowed to post a photo of the Mod Corner, you'd realize how wrong that statement is.j0n024 said:The mods now are very very lazy and I think they should be changed or at least put some ACTIVE members on the mod board.
One more well placed neg and my bytch shield will be down. Looks like all your excercise might pay off.Quiksilver said:Actually none of us like Heart Break Kid, but we put up with him because he's a great troll catcher.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You forgot about deleting all the reported posts from your inbox. You know, the ones where n00bs ask basic questions. We get lots of those. Oh yeah, and the ones from iqqi too.Provides some relief from deleting spam and troll posts
Actually that was a back-handed compliment, you'd better brush up on your skills before you embarrass yourself anymore..Heart Break Kid said:One more well placed neg and my bytch shield will be down. Looks like all your excercise might pay off.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.