"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I would like to become a moderator

DJVladdy

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If any1 knows how to go about doing that, please let me know.
Thank you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maxtro

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Heh I thought about being a mod on occasion, simply to get rid of the trash that often collects here.

There should be be moderator audtions, where each person who wants to be a mod should post why they want to be a mod, and how they plan to make sosuave a better place. Then everybody who wants to be a mod has to pack a suitcase and they move into a mansion. They are divided into teams and forced to undergo challenges. Whom ever is left standing at the end can become a moderator or takes the $10,000 grand prize.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Heart Break Kid

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Maxtro said:
Heh I thought about being a mod on occasion, simply to get rid of the trash that often collects here.

There should be be moderator audtions, where each person who wants to be a mod should post why they want to be a mod, and how they plan to make sosuave a better place. Then everybody who wants to be a mod has to pack a suitcase and they move into a mansion. They are divided into teams and forced to undergo challenges. Whom ever is left standing at the end can become a moderator or takes the $10,000 grand prize.
You are a lot closer to the actual process than you think. Minus the cash anyway.
 

Bible_Belt

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Mods are chosen by secret ritual at Bohemian Grove each July, but the results from this year have not yet released because they still need to be cleared through the Mason Elders and Illuminati, and a lot of them are still on summer vacation.
 

supa hahahaha

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Mods are chosen based on their social value amongst Juaners. If they need mods, they pretty much have an idea who they want. If that person wants to be a mod, they'll select him.

In rare circumstances they'd select him if he asks. Provided DJVladdy is in good standing amongst other mods.

Now, I would never want to be a mod of anything. Because I don't have time for that. Although if modding a site was my desire, I'd choose to mod sosuave, and sosuave only. I couldn't do it with any other average site or average subject, people there rant too much, and insult each other more than discussing the subject.
 

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Heart Break Kid said:
You are a lot closer to the actual process than you think. Minus the cash anyway.
What! There is no cash prize?! Fine, I'll hang up my pimp cane and go back home.

LOL I just thought about details for the mod picking show. It's called "Are you suave?" When you have been voted off the host tells you. "Maxtro, you are so not suave, please hang up your cane" Of course our host is none other than Rico Suave. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nx64_N4AA04
 

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The mods now are very very lazy and I think they should be changed or at least put some ACTIVE members on the mod board.

But seeing as how society works they (MODS) will pick someone they LIKE as opposed to picking someone better suited for the job...hell they would probably pick Iqqi just because she is a girl....haha even HERE where the basis of this site is to improve yourself and become your OWN man you have to kiss ass just to become a mod and clean up this place.

The mods here are a joke...plain and simple.

Now I could care less about me being a mod but I think some posters here are better suited for the job then the mods that have been here since what 05?

IF it's a ballot I put my vote for Kontrol.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Quiksilver

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j0n024 said:
But seeing as how society works they (MODS) will pick someone they LIKE as opposed to picking someone better suited for the job...
Actually none of us like Heart Break Kid, but we put up with him because he's a great troll catcher.
 

supa hahahaha

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j0n024 said:
The mods now are very very lazy and I think they should be changed or at least put some ACTIVE members on the mod board.

Nah, I disagree. Mods that are here now are pretty much same as it was in 04. So it's still great.


What's to moderate on suave? People here don't usually fight with each other.


As far as Iggi, yea she'd make a great mod. Woman's touch is good too. Her no hate in 08 attitude is great. She'd be my first choice. Just because she's more of a man than some.
 

thederekeffect1

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I've thought about it and I really don't think that I'd accept the job of a moderator on this site. I think I'd much rather buy this website and give it a complete overhaul. Don't get excited over there! I don't have the cash.

But maybe after a season of "Are You Suaver Then a 5th Grader"... :up:
 

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j0n024 said:
The mods now are very very lazy and I think they should be changed or at least put some ACTIVE members on the mod board.
If only we were allowed to post a photo of the Mod Corner, you'd realize how wrong that statement is.

I'll try and show you guys something later that should break that myth.

By the way, we don't pick people we like, or who beg. We actually had to scrape the bottom of the barrel and hire HBK and Quik. :D :crackup:
 

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Quiksilver said:
Actually none of us like Heart Break Kid, but we put up with him because he's a great troll catcher.
One more well placed neg and my bytch shield will be down. Looks like all your excercise might pay off. :whistle:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mpimpin

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I love threads like these. Provides some relief from deleting spam and troll posts
 

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Provides some relief from deleting spam and troll posts
You forgot about deleting all the reported posts from your inbox. You know, the ones where n00bs ask basic questions. We get lots of those. Oh yeah, and the ones from iqqi too.

Too bad few use the 'report bad post' feature for genuine problems.
 

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In communist Russia, you don't choose to be a Mod, the Mods choose you.
 

Quiksilver

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Heart Break Kid said:
One more well placed neg and my bytch shield will be down. Looks like all your excercise might pay off.
Actually that was a back-handed compliment, you'd better brush up on your skills before you embarrass yourself anymore.. :D

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But yeah, DJVladdy if you'd like to be a mod then send one of us a detailed reason why you think you'd be a good candidate, and we'll take it before the council.
 

SinJester

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Personally I think I should be a moderator of the HS forum. That sounds ****y but I don't really care if I am or not.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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