I would leave the Djing for this girl but has a man...

[bfl]

Ok well there is this girl that is very special to me i havent felt like this about a girl before, i would definetly stop playing this game and settle down with this girl.

The thing is that she has a bf, still we talk to each other on the regular, on the phone and we even kiss when we see each other (lips) when we see each other, but she still wants to be with her bf, at the same time she tells me that she really likes me, the thing that got me is when she said that the reason why she liked me is cause i look liker her bf and i remind her of him, that caught me by surprise, now my q is what do i do, do i still show that im interested on her and that im willing to keep fighting to get with her or do i back out start looking somewhere else?

She also sms me to tell me goodnight sweet dream... etc but also she does not want me to talk to any other girl and she has a man already, she said at one point that she wanted to be friends as a matterfact thats what we are right now so i act like a friend to her and she seems to want more, ill give her a simply hi or reach my hand out for a handshake and she grabs me, then ofcourse knowing me i do the same and before u know it we end up kissing .

I really dont know what to do in this situation... she wants to get with me but she has a bf that she aint ready to break up with, she also says a lot that im rushing things, im preety confuse here, i dont know what she wants.

 

[NRM]

Forget what she wants for a second. What do you want?

You want to date her.

Then take her. Either tell her it isn't okay and she either needs to drop this chump and be with you or forget about you all together.

There is a point here. You have made it clear to her that she can have her man and have you on the side with no conflicts. That is what you are telling her by not doing anything about it.

Dropping the DJing? That's all you have. Being a DJ is being a confident, suave, sophisticated guy. If you say you want to drop it and just be some pansy for a girl, she's going to end up dumping you and breaking you.

You either have to do it straight up and show her you're calling the shots not her. Why is it okay for her to be kissing and having sex with her real boyfriend while you just sit at the sidelines with nothing to do because they are getting it on at his place and she doesn't want you to date other girls?

Don't you get it man? She likes him MORE than you. If she didn't, then she would break up with him in a heartbeat and be with you. Wouldn't you do the same?

But women are complicated.

All you are going to do is tell her that you don't want this anymore. And she either drops the chump or you drop her. Not only will this show her that you're confident, but it will show her that you're a man. Be willing to walk away right after that. Let her think about it if she has to and let her contact you. Don't be some pansy standing around begging for an answer, walk away.

Of course, I don't condone this kind of girlfriend-stealing kind of thing. But you're a guy who seems to be set on it, so this is how you have to go about it. If she isn't willing to drop the chump for you, what does that have to say about her? What does that have to say about you?

That you're willing to drop everything for this women, but she still wants to be with another man? Come on bro, either go head on, or head home.

 

[Lost In Translation]

ok i am going to beat you up alittle here cause i am tired of seeing the same damn post over and over again. and you need a little kick up the a$$ to wake up to yourself.

i am doing this for your own good. i got nothin' but luv for my fellow dj's. yes i am harsh but it is TOUGH LOVE so no flames please


why should she break up with her bf ?

you are her b*tch , her little girlfriend on the side ( starsky and hutch )

but also she does not want me to talk to any other girl

she owns you

she is YOUR PIMP

she $hit tested you when she TOLD you , YOU not allowed to talk to any other girls.

dude, if some b*tch said that to me....... *sigh*

i would go psycho, possibly even pimp slap her

she has CONTROL of you. you are not a MAN.

a MAN has control. break up with her boyfriend for you ?

IN YOUR DREAMS


you need to pull the carpet out from under her.

get some more ho's on the side to get rid of your oneitis

YOU ARE THE PRIZE

you should be dictating the terms

she is supposed to be a guest in your reality remember

currently you are a guest in hers with a visitors card on your chest that reads "AFC play toy"

i would definetly stop playing this game and settle down with this girl.

what game you playing ? playstation doesn't count !

still we talk to each other on the regular, on the phone

deny this $hit, this "quality time" unless you are getting yours

whats in it for me ? you need to start thinking this.

if i give her my time, whats in it for me ? and YOU dictate what you want from her.

the thing that got me is when she said that the reason why she liked me is cause i look liker her bf and i remind her of him, that caught me by surprise

the girl has got skills. she is a female pimp doubtless.

she is mind fu**ing you. and you said your response to her saying it was ?

exactly what she wanted you to think.

what no witty comeback for her ? no slap her down a notch for disrespecting you ?

personally i would have verbally kicked her a$$ for comparing me to her loser boyfreind.

I AM BETTER.

YOU ARE BETTER. YOU ARE A DJ REMEMBER.

compare you ? pft. she is playing some serious games with your head.

do i still show that im interested on her and that im willing to keep fighting to get with her

dude she should be fighting to get with you !

to get some of your time !

not the other way around

YOU ARE THE PRIZE

She also sms me to tell me goodnight sweet dream... etc

she in monitoring you pimp style and has you on lock down.

she said at one point that she wanted to be friends as a matterfact thats what we are right now so i act like a friend to her and she seems to want more,

she is talking $hit. ignore what women say. go off what she does, her ACTIONS.

she is fu**ing with your mind on many levels as i said this girl has got skills.

I really dont know what to do in this situation... she wants to get with me but she has a bf that she aint ready to break up with, she also says a lot that im rushing things, im preety confuse here, i dont know what she wants.

my fellow dj you summerised her GAME beautifully.

you don't know what she wants.

she has you all twisted up in the game LOL

fu** what she wants ! it's what YOU want that matters !

she is saying in plain english

1. she like her bf, and intends to stay with him.

2. she wants you for a puppy dog cause her parents wouldn't buy her one when she was 5.

3. she says you are rushing things because she wants to dictate the pace and flow. she is your pimp and she is TELLING you what the program schedule is. and she is saying you MUST keep to it.

4. you have no clue what she is up to.


YOU ARE PLAYING CHECKERS AND SHE IS PLAYING CHESS

you are outclassed my fellow dj.

either rub a lamp and turn into the sort of man that can manage a true ho like this ( pimp ) or run and hide cause she has you right where she wants you.




Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

Quote: PuertoRican_Lover
“First off - she is just another hor who has opened her legs to another man - you are no one special - and there are no "Greatest" to hors - you are just the next pimp in line!!! “

Quote: PuertoRican_Lover
“ the 'pimp' mentality works today because you are living in a time such that there are an overabundance if hors - this is the Pimps playground!! Pimps and hors go together like bread and butter - they are complementary natures!!! Pimps need hors like hors need pimps!! “

 

[Smileyz]

oooh shiz

i had the exact same problem as you bro.. she has a guy but she likes me..she ended up breaking up with her boyfriend and choosing no one.

she told you your rushing things? well you should give her some time..coz dude what the hell..she has a boyfriend and a fling..that aint like counting 1,2,3 thats some hard ****..she has to think about it...have some patience coz only time will tell..but with the looks of things you 2 are getting it on pretty good..

but think about it amici..if she has a boyfriend and she's cheating on him? what makes you think she wont cheat on you when you become her boyfriend??

and i dont understand this thing you call Dj'ing..coz Dj aint about methods or tricks..

we dont apply techniques or go after the girl..for them to like us..

WE become so amazing that they go after us...

i suggest you next her dude...but only my opinion i could be wrong

 

[bfl]

dam thanx yall now i feel a lot better and yall got me back on my 2 feet now.

Now my only q is how do i next her do i just ignore her straight up stop talking to her? how do i exacly go about nexting her

 

[bfl]

^^

 

[DJ_Dork]

Kissing MEANS nothing. You my pal are what people call "Cuddle *****es" - basically you provide the non-sexual intimacy yet you do not get sex.

Now if you made this post stating "I bang her while she's with her BF" all of us would say "Keep f$cking, but do not consider her your girl"

Seems like your heart might get broken, would recommend cutting her off.