"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I wish I had not asked that..

Anymore

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I was out with some friends yesterday, one of the girls who I have known for over a year commented on setting me up with someone she knows. I asked how would she describe me, the girl looked mortified and said she would have to think about it, the conversion was then moved on to something else by another of our friends. Later in the evening when I was alone with this woman I asked her if she had given any thought to how she would describe me, she appeared to panic again and said I have a driving licence and a car and that that is always good.

I'm not sure how to take this, from reading these borads in a way I am glad she did not say that I'm nice, but then again having a car isnt that great an indorsment either. The woman is just a friend, she has her own BF etc

Why she just embarrassed to say?

I'm fearful I come across as a nothing now, please help me, thanks :whistle:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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She is obviously not embarrassed to put you down and disrespect you like that. One thing clear, she is not your friend. That means next.


You will come across as nothing now if you let them use your car. Forget about that friend, and enjoy your life. Work on your game, and self improvement.

Don't take that pity favor that b1tch is throwing at you, and don't drive her nor any of her friends.

Ignore her from this point on.

If she gets on your nerve don't be afraid to say that you respect her less because of her prior behavior. If she b1tches about it, tell her you only talk to women you interested in fvcking. And don't just that, don't talk to her from that point on.





Now. Your attitude! And Aptitude!

You're sorry about asking that?


WTF is that???


We need to flip that around, or reframe it. Say I'm glad I asked that, because now I know who are and who are not my friends. I can quit wasting my time on people that do not deserve to be around me.



Fair? I think that's the fairest deal you'll get bubba. Stop taking sh1t personally.
 

lYlasTer

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It sounds to me like you don't have any outstanding features or passions that stand out about you. Take her comment as constructive criticism that you need to spend some more time on self-improvement. Once you get to a certain level, you don't need your friends hooking you up anymore.
 

DJsomeday

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NEXT HER!, what a b!tch. unless she said it like joking, then she's just a funny b!tch :p on a serious note i think she isn't your friend at all, you shouldn't hang around with her again at least not using your car.
 

Alkali

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Don't know. I wasn't there.

She may have been uncomfortable flattering you.

She may have been worried that she'd insult you.

Who knows.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Obsidian

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Master and Stuntman may be correct, but the best way to know how she thinks of you is to get a good look at the girl she wants to hook you up with. If the hook-up girl is hot, then your friend thinks highly of you. If it's an UG, your friend doesn't think highly of you.
 
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