Had a ****ed up break up last Summer. August 23rd, it was final.
Heres the story if you're interested
This is how I dealt with it. Success, mistakes, and all.
There may be some out there who can take something positive from from this.
September 1-10
Started running for distance. 10, 15, 20 mile runs. Trained for a marathon. But also just running to stay sane. Running out negative energy. Also drinking a lot.
Went to Orlando to sleep with a girl I’ve wanted to dig out since college. Did so. She was absolutely insane though. HPD, no doubt. Tried killing herself 5 months prior. And she still looked me in the eye and said she thought I “had baggage”. Haha.
Sept 15-30
Started drinking and smoking heavily/ dosing Xanax. Extremely depressed and crazy. Talking incessantly about the break up. Running aroud 80 miles a week. Reading tons of books on psychology, relationships, etc…
Went down to a favorite watering hole. On the way, my buddy was like, “I have to holler at this chick.” So I say ok. We go meet with her, and she happens to be my ex’s new roommate. I find this out and end up fvcking her that night on my buddy’s porch. She texted me the next day, wanted to do it again. Said she had no loyalty to my ex cause they just met. I literally could have been banging this girl in the room next door to my ex if I wanted. I couldn’t do it. It was too painful, the connection the girl had to my ex. The whole time I would have just wanted to be in the next room with her, etc.
Oct 1st -31st
Started getting my **** together more. Signed up for a graduate class, refinanced my house. Began working on a big project for work. Went to the Appalachian Mountains and ran 22 miles. Joined a hot yoga class. The class helped me center myself and exhausted me to the point where rumination was minimalized, although it was still really bad.
Nov 1st- Jan 31st
Started seeing a girl regularly. Screwed a couple other girls, got rejected by several others. Went out west and ran the marathon in December. Resisted “hoovering” attempts / psychological warfare from my ex. Very painful though. The break up was not enough for her. She wanted to mutilate my emotional corpse.
Break from running. Started hitting the gym in earnest to get stronger for the spring running season.
Feb 1st –Present
Resisted yet more weak attempts by ex to hook me in. I was in great internal pain, although I don’t think she knew it. I never said anything to her.
Joined Sosuave for help and advice. Awesome stuff. Everyone who commented on my initial thread, thank you! Learned a lot.
Started seeing less of the girl I began seeing 3-4 months prior. Nailed the manager at my bank. Had a one night stand with some scenster chick with star tats around her neck.
Finishing work project that was started in November. By all accounts it is going to be a great success, so I'm proud of that for sure.
Refinance of my house should be complete soon. Once that happens I am buying an investment property in an up and coming part of town.
Now, it’s been nine moths or so and I’m starting to feel like myself again, somewhat. :box:
Heres the story if you're interested
This is how I dealt with it. Success, mistakes, and all.
There may be some out there who can take something positive from from this.
September 1-10
Started running for distance. 10, 15, 20 mile runs. Trained for a marathon. But also just running to stay sane. Running out negative energy. Also drinking a lot.
Went to Orlando to sleep with a girl I’ve wanted to dig out since college. Did so. She was absolutely insane though. HPD, no doubt. Tried killing herself 5 months prior. And she still looked me in the eye and said she thought I “had baggage”. Haha.
Sept 15-30
Started drinking and smoking heavily/ dosing Xanax. Extremely depressed and crazy. Talking incessantly about the break up. Running aroud 80 miles a week. Reading tons of books on psychology, relationships, etc…
Went down to a favorite watering hole. On the way, my buddy was like, “I have to holler at this chick.” So I say ok. We go meet with her, and she happens to be my ex’s new roommate. I find this out and end up fvcking her that night on my buddy’s porch. She texted me the next day, wanted to do it again. Said she had no loyalty to my ex cause they just met. I literally could have been banging this girl in the room next door to my ex if I wanted. I couldn’t do it. It was too painful, the connection the girl had to my ex. The whole time I would have just wanted to be in the next room with her, etc.
Oct 1st -31st
Started getting my **** together more. Signed up for a graduate class, refinanced my house. Began working on a big project for work. Went to the Appalachian Mountains and ran 22 miles. Joined a hot yoga class. The class helped me center myself and exhausted me to the point where rumination was minimalized, although it was still really bad.
Nov 1st- Jan 31st
Started seeing a girl regularly. Screwed a couple other girls, got rejected by several others. Went out west and ran the marathon in December. Resisted “hoovering” attempts / psychological warfare from my ex. Very painful though. The break up was not enough for her. She wanted to mutilate my emotional corpse.
Break from running. Started hitting the gym in earnest to get stronger for the spring running season.
Feb 1st –Present
Resisted yet more weak attempts by ex to hook me in. I was in great internal pain, although I don’t think she knew it. I never said anything to her.
Joined Sosuave for help and advice. Awesome stuff. Everyone who commented on my initial thread, thank you! Learned a lot.
Started seeing less of the girl I began seeing 3-4 months prior. Nailed the manager at my bank. Had a one night stand with some scenster chick with star tats around her neck.
Finishing work project that was started in November. By all accounts it is going to be a great success, so I'm proud of that for sure.
Refinance of my house should be complete soon. Once that happens I am buying an investment property in an up and coming part of town.
Now, it’s been nine moths or so and I’m starting to feel like myself again, somewhat. :box: