"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I was told i'm too "agressive"

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I got back from vacation four days ago and havn't a good time with girls since before vacation, which lasted a week. So I had been getting a little down, nothing too much though, because I'm strong now mentally and physically. Last night me and my friends plans with these girls failed so we had planned something for today. We went over to this girls house and drank some liquor with music. This girls friend came over A who is good looking and last time I *MISSED* an oppurtunity.

INFO ON A: SHE IS WEIRD! She only becomes interested in a guy when they are not showing interest in her! The last time we were cuddling and she straddled me a little because I was acting so chill!

So when A came over to the girls house I was almost drunk I had liquid confidence and in the mood for some pvssy. I'll try to tell you to the best of my recollection cause this happened today. So we were sitting on the coach and I was just putting my arm around her, I would say **** like "You know I love you," when she would get mad. Because I also called her a ***** because she said she was a vegeterian and I said "But you love eating meat!" I kept on setting up for a kiss but I was getting the "cute horn dog advance" response. I also had my hand on her thigh and I would hold her from behind. I was touching her 24/7. After she got mad about my but you love to eat meat comment she was like "don't touch me!" (It wasn't like I was raping her.)

Basically after we had to leave and I asked if she wanted to hangout later it sounded like she just wanted me to leave. When we got out I was still buzzing but my friend told me I Was "being agressive." THinking back i feel like a tool. Please help.

I havn't hooked up with a girl in awhile and I had so much pent up, I just need feed back.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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to be honest i wasnt all that drunk on a wasted scale id say i was a 5 out of 10 with 6 being drunk
 

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i have to agree. But lets assume you weren't too drunk. Trying to make jokes about someone being vegeterian is a HUUUGE no no. Remember, why are the vegeterian? Oh yah, religion (and if it's because they love animals then it's to the point where you can put it in same category as religion). That's one of the DJ no-nos. I never neg hit on that.

Also, when I try to kino in a sexual way i make it playful. From your description it sounds like you were doing it offensively without showing the playfulness. Also looks like you were enforcing opinions on her with teh whole "you know you love me" thing. Remember what Senior Fingers said. Reversal role play but always keep things playful and exaggerated. Should have gone marriage-kids-white hair route. Also, should have used a disqualifier or two at her since she seems snotty.

I"m a PUA not a DJ, I know hahahah.
 

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You sound like a future sex offender... No? How about not getting drunk?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hey srry to hear about your missed chance.

Well the main problem was that your head wasn't clear. You where drunk. And unless the other girl was also drunk, a drunk guy is a major turnoff for a girl.

Let me explain, me myself i don't drink at all, i just don't like alcohol.
And here is a story how this worked in my advantage.
I never went to a disco before with my friends but they convinced me to go so I went with them. While they where drinking tequillia, i was drinking cola, but that was in fact an advantage. Because during this first time at the disco, I achieved more then some of those other guys did in 2 years. I hooked up with a girl.
Because they where so drunk they scared girls of, because I was not drunk and had a clear mind, I attracted girls.
A true Don Juan shows style and knows when he has to stop drinking.

And you where also offending her, you was making fun of her beliefs. In that way she thinks you don't respect her, another reason for her to get rid of you.

Hope this advice is usefull

Greetz from Holland
 

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SELF-MASTERY said:
You sound like a future sex offender... No? How about not getting drunk?
what are you 12 years old? have you ever drank before?
 

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Dutchy- Yes you sound right. Girls that arn't drunk probably find drunk guys disgusting
 

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Void, in reading your post you come off as desperate to me while spreading the goods as you said "24/7". To add to that, you offended her. Let me remind you that in her mind you must be associated with nothing negative. Keep your confidence in check. Become over-confident and we have what happened above.

Kill that desperation man. Best of luck.
 

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LikRetsam said:
Void, in reading your post you come off as desperate to me while spreading the goods as you said "24/7". To add to that, you offended her. Let me remind you that in her mind you must be associated with nothing negative. Keep your confidence in check. Become over-confident and we have what happened above.

Kill that desperation man. Best of luck.
I was desperate...and I guess she could tell. And yeah she does think I'm an *******, and I guess I became one awhile ago. I gotta change that.

thanks for the reply.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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That's one of the DJ no-nos. I never neg hit on that.
I have to disagree. The only true DJ no-no when it comes to vegeterian chicks is the following : "Don't hook up with them, they're a pain in the ass".

9 times out of 10 they're also feminists, it must be some sort of package deal.

If you want to spend the rest of your life cooking your own food separately or eating ham in the bathroom at night while she's asleep, fine.
 

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Dutchy said:
Hey srry to hear about your missed chance.

Well the main problem was that your head wasn't clear. You where drunk. And unless the other girl was also drunk, a drunk guy is a major turnoff for a girl.

Let me explain, me myself i don't drink at all, i just don't like alcohol.
And here is a story how this worked in my advantage.
I never went to a disco before with my friends but they convinced me to go so I went with them. While they where drinking tequillia, i was drinking cola, but that was in fact an advantage. Because during this first time at the disco, I achieved more then some of those other guys did in 2 years. I hooked up with a girl.
Because they where so drunk they scared girls of, because I was not drunk and had a clear mind, I attracted girls.
A true Don Juan shows style and knows when he has to stop drinking.

And you where also offending her, you was making fun of her beliefs. In that way she thinks you don't respect her, another reason for her to get rid of you.

Hope this advice is usefull

Greetz from Holland
What the fvck is this sh1t?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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WhAcKeD! said:
What the fvck is this sh1t?
What do you mean whaked?:confused:
 
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