"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I was supposed to go to the Windy City smokeout this weekend with 6 friends

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Windy city smokeout is a country music festival in Chicago (good music, great food). I was supposed to go Sunday with my 2 male friends, his girlfriend and like 5 of her friends

My male friends are both cancelling so I would basically just go with his girlfriend and their friends. Should I still go? I get along great with her so I don't think it would be awkward but I'm not used to hanging out with 5 women (only one in the group is single but she's not my type - she's a white girl, blonde, california blonde type). Would I still have fun? the girls are all 21-25 but my buddy's girlfriend is pretty mature for her age

I'm used to having all male friends. Is it going to be awkward? I'm not used to just hanging out with women with no romantic interest involved. I strongly prefer male friends...
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This is exactly the sort of thing I would have made myself do when I was younger, just to get the social experience of it. It might be awkward, but who cares? You should come out of it feeling more relaxed around women.

Just don't bore them to death telling them how great you are.
 

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Go. It'll be awkward and fun.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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