Ever hear those guys that say "man, i'm never getting married" and then a few months or a year later they are?lol well, i'm not one of them. when i say i'm never getting married, i mean exactly that. this past friday night reminded me of why too. a really good friend of mine(well i guess the girl is a friend of mine too....or was) got the shock of his life. she told him bluntly "i've been cheating on you for the past 2 1/2 months". they dated for 6 years, married for a little over one. this was one of those relationships where anyone could see they were happy, never had much drama, she seemed like the perfect girl, etc. Apparently the most succesful relationships begin to fall apart from the day you say "i do". this girl is the LAST girl i thought would ever cheat, not only that but the way she told him was even more shocking! i think i lost what little respect i had for women after this past friday....yes ALL of them. she basically told him in the parking lot of a bar with all of our friends around watching that she was cheating on him with another guy. the other guy was even there! the good part? the guy shed been seeing didnt know she was married still! she told him she was seperated, and took her ring off everytime they were together. my friend Adam was in shock, we all were. i dont know if it was the fact that a girl we all thought was so good could do something so low, or if it was the way she admitted it. i honestly felt like hitting her, closed fist and all. just laying her out cold. i felt bad for my friend because he honestly had no idea about this, none of us did! sometimes someone knows about a spouse cheating but never says anything, or the husband has a suspicious feeling. there was none of that! its honestly enough to never make me want to be in a serious relationship with any woman for a LONG time. and yes, i blame ALL of them. they ALL do this atsome time or another. what i cant understand is how you stay faithful to someone for 6 years and then cheat on them the first year youre married? why would you tell him with all of his friends around in such a classless and lowly way? not only do you lose the respect of your husband, but now shes lost all respect from her friends. all this for a fling with some guy wholl probably want nothing to do with her after he realizes what shes done. the other guy had no idea either! i just cant get over this at all. the shock of it still hasnt settled in. anyways i had to share this and get this off of my chest. my advice to you guys thinking of marrige, DONT. its not like your grandparents in the 40's when faithfulness acctually meant something. these sluts these days dont give a crap about being faithful to anyone but themselves.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I was reminded why I NEVER will get married
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
SandHawk
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Please start using paragraphs... This is horrible to read.
JdelaSilviera
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Robert28 said:
Sorry, but we have a recent thread where many guys agree that it is ok to cheat (at least for men) due to our animal urges. So both men and women are pigs.... most humans are unreliable
In my opinion if you want a marriage to result, you have to find a girl that is different (of course you have to be better than than the average guy), that it is almost not human. One that you may find in a group of a 1000.
Marriage between normal people doesn´t work anymore, because people are so stupid...
What do I mean with non human girl?
1) She is highly intelligent
2) She has hobbies,and many interests and she is curious about learning more
3) She has integrity and you can trust what she says
4) She understands, and knows to read people well, she is highly forgiving
5) She doesn´t ***** about other people behind their back, if she has something to say she will say upfront
6) When she has a boyfriend/husband, she doesn´t even give a chance to other men to flirt
7) She doesn´t need other men chasing her to raise her self esteem
8) She has few but good friends, that also don´t ***** about other people and try to mess your relationship
9) She isn´t jealous
10) She isn´t impulsive, she thinks before she acts
11) She is good looking, but isn´t obsessed about looks
12) Go shopping isn´t a hobby for her
13) She is hardworking and gives her best in everything she does (including your relationship)
14) She is impossible to manipulate
15) She somewhat "zen" like, and is not overly materialistic
With this girl you can marry, so why most marriages don´t work?
Average guy: is dumb, becomes fat and smelly, lives to work forgetting his dutties as husband and as father, has premature ejaculation (lol) , cheats because he is weak and cannot control his sexual urges, he does big discussions with minor things.
Average girl: is dumb, also becomes fat, has absolutely no intellectual interests, she doesn´t know how to carry a normal conversation, all she does is *****ing about others, and other people´s lives. She is impulsive, she doesn´t think before she acts, she also gets into fights due to insignificant things, she cheats for revengence, and worst SHE KNOWS she is getting uglier so she needs other men validation and appreciation even more then in the teenage years. She is easy manipulated by players...
This is why marriage doesn´t work...
There is nothing wrong with it´s concept...
He's a patient man, if a woman said that to me in a parking lot, I would puch her in the face and do the three months in jail. I would lose it. Horrible story. Don't let it jade you. Some women are just wired wrong. I agree, it's almost impossible to find a good girl these days, but don't give up. Who knows what her reasoning was. Maybe he was a doormat. The way she talked to him like that shows me she lost respect many, many years ago. You have to keep your bitcvh in check.
Julius_Seizeher
Master Don Juan
Always look at the bright side.
Despite the ego haircut this guy took, with infidelity he can get a divorce without losing his ass.
Despite the ego haircut this guy took, with infidelity he can get a divorce without losing his ass.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
women haze
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Man Tell that ***** she need to eat a Baby ****.....
Masculinity
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PARAGRAPHS!!!
I even double space stuff so that people can read!
I even double space stuff so that people can read!
Your friend married an american woman what do you expect? It's almost like the Darwin award he gets what he deserves for being dumb.
Another thing we have to consider is that she openly destroyed him in front of friends in the bar parking lot. This shows she had no respect for him or fear of him whatsoever.
This points to a massive lack of game on your friend's part. Women do not go around disrespecting alpha males who are not afraid to put a woman in check at any time. You're friend sounds like no alpha male i am willing to bet he is weak and probably has massive nice guy syndrome with this woman.
Women disrespect men that they know are weak or extremely nice. For her to destroy your friend in public means she really had no respect of him as a man. She could have told him the truth in private but she chose to destroy him in public. That shows a massive lack of respect for him and everything he meant to her.
I am in no way excusing what this wicked woman did to your friend but it's a fact of life that women will screw over men that they don't respect. Your friend must be real weak for she to openly reveal her infidelities and ruining his life in public in front of all his friends like that.
Another thing we have to consider is that she openly destroyed him in front of friends in the bar parking lot. This shows she had no respect for him or fear of him whatsoever.
This points to a massive lack of game on your friend's part. Women do not go around disrespecting alpha males who are not afraid to put a woman in check at any time. You're friend sounds like no alpha male i am willing to bet he is weak and probably has massive nice guy syndrome with this woman.
Women disrespect men that they know are weak or extremely nice. For her to destroy your friend in public means she really had no respect of him as a man. She could have told him the truth in private but she chose to destroy him in public. That shows a massive lack of respect for him and everything he meant to her.
I am in no way excusing what this wicked woman did to your friend but it's a fact of life that women will screw over men that they don't respect. Your friend must be real weak for she to openly reveal her infidelities and ruining his life in public in front of all his friends like that.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Cheating is bound to happen...sometimes even the best and brightest women will be unable to control their attraction to another guy.
But to admit it to him in the open like that, with the guy who she did it with there (?!?). Yes, I agree her respect for him must have been very low.
But to admit it to him in the open like that, with the guy who she did it with there (?!?). Yes, I agree her respect for him must have been very low.
Julius_Seizeher
Master Don Juan
I have a cousin, he's my age and we have been tight since the crib.
Of course, that all changed two years ago when he got married. I never see that mfer anymore.
I will never forget, within two months of getting married he was telling me, "Man, if this doesn't work out, there's no way in hell I'd get married again."
Fast forward two years later, she gained 50 pounds, cut her hair off, became his mom, and yet they are the model of domestic bliss. I don't buy it, if it's a sh!tty deal I hope he gets out of it so we can run again, but I just see more bs on both their parts.
Of course, that all changed two years ago when he got married. I never see that mfer anymore.
I will never forget, within two months of getting married he was telling me, "Man, if this doesn't work out, there's no way in hell I'd get married again."
Fast forward two years later, she gained 50 pounds, cut her hair off, became his mom, and yet they are the model of domestic bliss. I don't buy it, if it's a sh!tty deal I hope he gets out of it so we can run again, but I just see more bs on both their parts.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Paragraphs , man use them ... it hard as hell to read this.
But sucks for your friend man. Women are getting crazy in USA man, i am not gonna lie. Marriage is pointless in this time and age.
But sucks for your friend man. Women are getting crazy in USA man, i am not gonna lie. Marriage is pointless in this time and age.
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perseverance
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I won't get married because I have seen so many happy couples get married and then separate anywhere from six months to four years. Marriage nowadays means absolutely nothing.
My friends parents have been together for over twenty four years and they have never married and are as happy as can be. Marriage to them wasn't important. In contrast my closest friend whose parents are married have been married for twenty two years and both are extremely happy together. However these two incidents are isolated and do not reflect a majority of society. Divorce is at a record high and it seems to me that it is the women who are by in large doing the divorcing.
Marriage has been destroyed like most things by feminism and there is no way in a month of sundays will I build up an Empire to have it destroyed by a direct descendant of Cleopatra.
My friends parents have been together for over twenty four years and they have never married and are as happy as can be. Marriage to them wasn't important. In contrast my closest friend whose parents are married have been married for twenty two years and both are extremely happy together. However these two incidents are isolated and do not reflect a majority of society. Divorce is at a record high and it seems to me that it is the women who are by in large doing the divorcing.
Marriage has been destroyed like most things by feminism and there is no way in a month of sundays will I build up an Empire to have it destroyed by a direct descendant of Cleopatra.
lisahoney
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I kinda agree with you... marriage and monogomy is on it's way out, sad to say.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.