"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I was ignored today. Weird.

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Alright, so this post isn't actually about a girl I want to game, but she's still a girl everything we know should still apply.

Anyways, last week, I was talking with a friend and I said something that she took the wrong way, which pissed her off. I realized that she took offense to it, so I apologized for it. She seemed kind of distant recently, but I thought she needed a little time to cool down, so I didn't read into it.

But then today, something odd happened. I was walking by her in school, and she didn't say hi. I didn't think much of it because I had barely noticed her myself until I was just passing her, and I didn't say hi or wave or anything like that so I just thought she hadn't seen me, it happens all the time. But then, later, I passed her again, this time, we were walking opposite directions Through the same door. Thinking that it was little weird this morning, I decided to wave to her to make sure that nothing was wrong. She fvcking snubbed me. She didn't even look at me.

"Okay, wtf?" right? I decided to ask a friend of mine who's kind of close to her if he knew if anything was wrong. She said that he had talked to her and that she told him she was sorta mad at me, but he wouldn't specify why.

So my first thought was to confront her about it. I had gotten up and started walking to where my friend said she was, but then I realized something. That's not the way of the DJ. There was only one thing that she could be mad at me for. I knew it. But I had already apologized for it. I'm done with that. If she has a problem with it, then it's her problem, not mine. I said "I'm sorry" once, and that's as many times as I will say it for one thing. I'm not going to beg for her forgiveness. I'm finished with that thing, and if she wants to hold onto it, then she can just go ahead.

Now, just to eliminate any doubt in my mind, that was the DJ way to handle this situation, right?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Perhaps....

Maybe everyone here will disagree with me, but IMO....you treat your friends differently than "girls you want to game." She's your friend, and if you're SURE you have no interest in her, try to work things out.
 

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Well, all you can do is give her some time to get over it. I wouldn't worry about it too much because as soon as you stop worrying about it, she'll get over it. So, be friendly, but don't make a big deal out of it anymore.
 

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Off the bat, I can tell you she's high maintenance, if you were wondering at all about it. You never apologize to high maintenance women because it never works, for one, and they enjoy it when you do decide you should.

You did right by with simply ignoring the matter. Think of this as a test for her, and she's already started it badly. She's ignoring you, and she KNOWS you don't like it, thus that means she's willing to 'lose' you in that way. If you give in here, you're telling her it's okay to treat you this way. Is it, man?

It's already low-interest on her part. Who would stay angry over something so stupid? Good friends and good women--or at least women who have High Interest--don't do stupid **** like this. Very bad sign.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This is prob the first time you and her have disagreed over something. So it's important to set a good president. don't ignore her next time you see her, but rather the next time you she her alone isolate her and ask why she acting that way. Remind her firmly that it's rude to act like that and you that you dont keep friends who act like 5. Tell her you've already apologised and ask her what more does she expect from you. The final bit is important because you put the ball in her caught, and she's forced to face her action and to justifiy it. If your reasonable and she acts like a fool, at least then you know you've tried.
 

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Yes. Now give her the gift of missing you.
 
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