He wasn't gay (he didn't look or act gay) but just an outgoing and very observant guy. I was meeting this girl at a restaurant/bar but there was some kind of an event going on and it was packed. This guy inside noticed me looking in and he comes out and starts a conversation like we known each other for years. The funny thing is, I normally have a "***** shield" up because I don't like when people just start talking to me and don't know when to stop. But he had me chatting for 10 minutes.
Anyway, the reason why I have problems approaching women is not because of the rejection, but I need to give myself a valid reason to open her. Opinion openers are lame because girls can see through that and they'll think you don't have the balls to just be direct.
Using the interaction with the guy from my story, the very best way to chat up a female is talk about something that's going on in her universe. I think to be successful, you have to be aware of your surroundings. A man has to listen in on conversations or noticed the things a woman is doing (a cashier shifting her weight from foot to foot demonstrates she's tired, so saying something about her having a long day will seem totally natural and can transition to getting her number) to have an effective opener.
I think that I should practice observing people and learn how to make open ended comments that require an answer. And I know after I get good at this, females will wonder how they ended up in a conversation with this cool guy.
What do you all think?
Anyway, the reason why I have problems approaching women is not because of the rejection, but I need to give myself a valid reason to open her. Opinion openers are lame because girls can see through that and they'll think you don't have the balls to just be direct.
Using the interaction with the guy from my story, the very best way to chat up a female is talk about something that's going on in her universe. I think to be successful, you have to be aware of your surroundings. A man has to listen in on conversations or noticed the things a woman is doing (a cashier shifting her weight from foot to foot demonstrates she's tired, so saying something about her having a long day will seem totally natural and can transition to getting her number) to have an effective opener.
I think that I should practice observing people and learn how to make open ended comments that require an answer. And I know after I get good at this, females will wonder how they ended up in a conversation with this cool guy.
What do you all think?
