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I want to talk about a ****ed up idea

SickSadWorld

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How did I get into game ?

I will be talking about the ****ed up idea from where I started my journey in game. The paradigm that made me look for PUAs and the book “The Game” in order find answer about this. Many of you could have experienced or still haven’t found the answer to this and maybe even got into game for the exact same reason, or maybe you haven’t interiorized the issue enough yet.

For a long time I have been thinking about it. Maybe a decade now.

When I was in high school. I fell in love with a girl from my classroom. I never approached her directly until the end.. I had fear of rejection that would destroy my emotional well being and self steem at a particular vulnerable time of my life. Also I believei didn’t deserved it. I had worked hard to fit in today’s society and was kind of successful in that matter to be honest. I was kind, disciplined. Smart. high performance in class. Social. People liked me. Etc. I would accept a soft rejection but a harsh rejection would blow my world entirely and everything would have fallen. You know the movie “London has fallen”. Something like that. I knew I had to take action but I was wondering if there was a way she could reject me without destroying my reputation and value in front of others or those kind of things in case she was planning to reject me anyways lol.

True thing is that she was giving me some IOIs all the time. But the moment I decided to take action, it happened what I didn’t wanted to happen. I got harshly rejected. I made sure it wasn’t in front of others but I was inexperienced and asked her something along the lines of “do you feel something for me?” She said no and walked away. The next day she continued looking at me and giving me IOIs.
At that point, I realized I had nothing in my reportire to underestand what the **** was happening. What is going on behind this contradicting behaviors from her. Was she falsely giving me IOIs for fun ? I thought maybe she just felt more experienced then me in the sexual market and was playing with IOIs without being truly interested.
All those questions and ideas started to come up from my mind. Hopefully I made sure it didn’t happen in front of my peers and classroom mates. It would have destroyed my values in front of them. The next day they would have come up thinking “this guy is a loser. Not what I thought he was” .

If you come to play with me FIffa2026 in the PlayStation and you lose 4-0 with me. I will think you are a complete loser. Even if you are a world class player that lost on porpouse.

Anyways. After that episode in my life. I found myself in the exact same pattern with other girls. Women gave me IOIs but never approached me clearly. So I never approached them either. I always thought it had to be an ego battle to which I won’t fall less than her or it was just that I was getting false positive everywhere I looked

same pattern continued over and over again. I never approached because I couldn’t figure out why if they are interested and attracted to me . Why can’t they just take action and ask me to go for a walk at the least. I could have asked them to go and **** but they never did or rarely do. Why do I need to do everything from start to finish. Approach them. Talk to them. Amuse them. Qualify them. Kiss them and then take them home.

I got into game from that point because at least I had to find an alternative to be able to get sex. And that alternative was daygame cold approaching. regardless wether I get IoIs or not. It was an alternative solution to that question but not the true answer.

game would have been much easier if I could get what I have close, without needing to go out far from where I lived to pick up girls .

After a decade and having ****ed many women and be a completely different guy from that inexperienced one from my early years in the sexual market. I have got closer to it. Here it is: It is a philosophical one:

“LIFE IS NOT WHAT YOU THINK IT IS AND NOT WHAT YOU ALWAYS THOUGHT IT WAS. YOU WILL NEVER BE TOO CLOSE BUT YOU CAN BE A LOT CLOSER THAN BEFORE”

It all has to do with the role women play in today’s society and the role man play in today’s society. Yes. Those roles are so ****ed up that it got me confused and unable to approach for years. It paralyzes you completely. You don’t want to get rejected. She doesn’t want either. She knows she likes you and want to **** you but prefer waiting to **** that one less attractive than you but who is stupid enough to go around this paradigm of selfishness, gender war. Etc.

Note: This is not a complain to a problem. This is a recognition of a problem. Two different things. This post is not like one saying “Life is so unfair”. This one is determining what is unfair in order to make it fair.
 

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