"I want to see you" - Needy statement?

[doubledown11]

I'm trying to keep myself from appearing needy. The situation is this chick had attraction to me, we hooked up, and I'm not sure if she's still that into me, she's been curt and cold when I have texted her a couple times - saying she's too tired, or is studying or whatever other excuse.

To make matters worse I saw her logged on AOL for a couple hours last night - and being alpha, would not be the one to initiate chat (I initiated the last time, and it was a lame conversation) ...

So - I want to see her again. But I don't want to appear needy. What should I do?

Is "I want to see you again" as a text too needy??

 

[f283000]

1. You are already f%#@% up by texting her on the phone/online. Don't ever have txt conversations with a woman unless you are planning to be her friend. If you want to be her lover you need to grab your balls and call her/talk to her face to face, simple as that. Remember that a woman hearing your voice gets her thinking about you in ways that reading text does not. Show her some confidence, grab your phone and call her and if she doesn't pick up leave her a brief message. Texting is only for brief messages that are far and between and for commands (for example "hey meet me at 5pm, bye") that's what texting is for, commands and short messages that are spaced out and are very rare (no txt conversations).

2. You can see her again by either
a) calling her, having a conversation with her and just asking her what her schedule is like tell her she should go chill with you or something.
b) if you are still a wimp you can just txt her and remember the rule (commands) such as "hey, let's go such and such on wednesday" short and brief as possible

I would suggest you show some confidence and just call her from now on, and please stop having txt conversations for your own good.

 

[MisterMcGee]

nothing's wrong with texting, dont worry. i've had a couple short playful txt conversations (well, msn convos) with this HB. I had one two weeks ago, maybe 10 back and forth messages, and one a few days ago, a tad longer. I left them on a high note and on my own terms.
our recent 'convo' involved us joking around and being playful about getting into a fight. "getting physical", me "giving it to her hard", "watching our back", she teased about being bigger than me and i said "you wanna talk size?" etc.
keep it playful with a sexual undertone. txting should be used for teasing and setting up plans, nothing else

 

[CFERD]

Agreed. Texting puts you in her gal pal thoughts. Plus she controls the contact by not returning texts. Calling is by far the way to go. NFD

 

[trd323]

I'm trying to keep myself from appearing needy. The situation is this chick had attraction to me, we hooked up, and I'm not sure if she's still that into me, she's been curt and cold when I have texted her a couple times - saying she's too tired, or is studying or whatever other excuse.

To make matters worse I saw her logged on AOL for a couple hours last night - and being alpha, would not be the one to initiate chat (I initiated the last time, and it was a lame conversation) ...

So - I want to see her again. But I don't want to appear needy. What should I do?

Is "I want to see you again" as a text too needy??

If you feel that both of you really liked each other. Then there is nothing wrong with telling her you want meet up. But really listen to your instincts, because sometimes you want to really see somebody can hide an underlying reason. For example, in the begining I would be wanting to meet up with a girl and thought I wanted to meet because I really liked her, but it was because I have not had sex in 2 months and just wanted fcuk her. So make sure you want to see her because you want to get to know her and just spend time with her.

She can sense if it is genuine. Only you know how your last date really went. And being alpha has nothing to do with you doing something or not doing something.

Actually, girls will text you when they really like you because they are scared that they can get rejected by a phone call. 80% of the time I meet a woman and connect with her; she always texts me that day and sometimes within the hour on how cool that we met. So all forms of communication is good. If your really afraid of being needy, root the communication. For example, on IM; hey just doing a research paper for school and saw you on IM, Are you one of those people addicted to myspace.

Relax. listen. be genuine

 

[doubledown11]

thanks for the replies gentlemen. I think this girl is kaput, the attraction seems gonzo.

thankfully I have a couple dates set up for this week to combat the emotional feelings of one-itis- with a couple different girls - hopefully I don't **** those up.(!!)

one girl is a french chick I made out with in a nightclub for a long time, we've tried to meet the last 2 weeks but havent been able to (I live an hour away, logistics just havent worked out) - but we have plans for Sat.

second girl is a random colombian girl who found me online through couchsurfing.com - we have similar music tastes, I can dance salsa, etc.

lessons to take away from your replies - stop with the reliance on texting (although one chick has a french cell, and calling would cost me a lot of money... so not w/ her)

I could use a wing out here to spot my errors... anyone know DJs in S. Florida?