"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SobchakSecurity said:
that's just it. I have been unable to jump in and get my feet wet. It's for lots of reasons,and,probably false beliefs. Also,after having read about alot on here,I think I have misunderstood alot about what you say about women and getting out of the matrix.

I mean,I want to do all of this stuff,all these goals,career,family,house,etc, but can't even find a way to start. I mean,esp in terms of going out and trying to get laid,there has long been something holding me back,and has now turned into an anxiety.
The whole point is that you need to start. Without practice, all the reading in the world won't help you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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That's been it. I don't know where to start. I don't know whether to start small,or feel I should be ahead,etc.
 

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SobchakSecurity said:
That's been it. I don't know where to start. I don't know whether to start small,or feel I should be ahead,etc.
People have told you before to simply just go out and say hi to one random girl. You know where to start, stop lying to yourself.
 

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Q: How many CapedCrusaders does it take to screw in a light bulb?

A: Who the hell knows, they're in the corner mumbling to themselves.
 

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CapedCrusader is really a prophet who is teaching us a lesson in Psychology.

When I have infant children and they learn swears or say/do things they shouldn't - I will not show them an intense reaction or too much attention. If I do, they will learn that how to create reactions from pressing the buttons that I helped program to program.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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