"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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one girl i spent a wonderful night with and became very intimate with, is falling worse and worse towards drugs. When i was getting with her she only smoked pot every once in a while, i really liked her but she wouldn't quit. So we kind of fell apart then we didn't speak for awhile, maybe a hello here and there. Anyway now she is starting to experiment with heavy drugs, man this girl is a great person and really pretty too I dont want anything to happen to her. She wont listen to me just telling her, and her friends are horrible influences, I just want to do the right thing and try to save this chick.

how do i go about doing so
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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"You must be the change you wish to see in the world."
 

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Be honest with her. Tell her shes beautiful and you really like her... but living a bad life will slowly ruin all the wonderful things about her and you dont want that to happen. And then tell her parents, and make sure they dont tell her you were the one who blew her in, ect.

No matter what the feminists claim - women are and will forever be the fairer sex. When you find one in need... dont be the ******* who uses it to get in her pants and leaves her worse off... help her.
 

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Go ahead and help her. But like Tony said, please do it for the right reason. Don't use it to get in her pants. Do it for her future and your own moral obligation to help someone in this situation. I'm not saying to go out and help everyone who has a drug issue, but pertaining to those close to your heart, help them. Parents . . . a risky idea, but that's what I would do. She might find out and hate you, but in the end you did the right thing and they will be grateful.
 

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Take her to one of those corrections websites that show pictures of inmates and do a search under drugs or prostitution.

Show her what these loser wh0res actually look like and the road that she is headed down.

Those photos aint pretty.
Its enough to even scare me!:eek:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She needs help that you, my friend, can't *truely* offer. I mean sure, to some degree you can help her. The truth is, you want to help her drop those panties so you can go at it. I know how it is because I've played the same role-- you tell yourself you are just trying to help her but really that's just an excuse. If you want to help her try talking to a counselor or her parents or someone at your school, do not try to be the knight in shining armor just so you can get a peice of ass-- that doesn't help her --that exploits her and can lead to much worse things happening to her.
 

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By harder drugs what do you mean? Is she snorting coke up and shooting heroin?

If she's dabbling with X, or other hallucigens it's really not that bad. Having used that stuff a few times in the past.. they were wonderful experiences.
 

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not at as bad as snorting coke or shooting heroin, but shrooms and X and probobly other crap,

thanks for the help guys, her mom already knows but can t really do much for her and she sees counseling, but still continues to get worse.

I think she needs to find some new friends but how could i go about changing her who shes with socially
 

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Shrooms aren't a huge deal, but X is, i have a friend who's sister did a lot of X and now she has panic attacks because of it.

However, if she only tried these things once, that's one thing... it's a problem if she continues to over and over again.
 

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IF it's just shrooms and X then lay of man, I did my fair share of X and I'm cool(also I dont realy know anyone who has any ill effects from it, still thats just FYI).OTOH there is a chance coke is the next step up if she's trying new things and whle there's nothing wrong with that I got to say ,from personal experiance, both H and blow CAN be extremlely adictive(I cut it of at my 4th hit with both for that reason).

Idea(warning: I came up with it): like TDOT said get some pics of inmates and crack hoe's and e-mail her.Just drop it BTW that just because she's using a little X does'nt mean she's one of those.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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