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I want to not care as much

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Been broken up with my ex for a while now but we still hung out pretty much just as much as when we were together, still had sex ect. I did have some other girls chase me but none I really wanted and I still wanted my ex. Well today she is going with a new guy friend to meet his family, she has known him for a bit, and she felt bad that I was not happy. She said she did not love me anymore but still always feels really bad if I am hurt or just in a bad mood.

I have no idea if she will want to come back with me, we have broken up before and gotten back but nothing like this. I just want to not care as much so it doesnt hurt so damn bad. I become such a AFC when I see a girl I really want.
 

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The only path to recovery is cold no contact.

To meet up with her or keep her as a friend just fans the flames of oneitis for her.

Sorry dude but thats what you're going to have to do to get over her.

Otherwise you're going to continue to care and be tortured by the thought she is not with you.
 
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If you want to not care as much, you can't be hanging out and still having sex with her. I admit, I have had sex with my ex before, but this was only when I was mentally strong enough. I already had other girls on lockdown, and I didn't really love her anymore.

Whoever cares about the other the most is going to have the most emotional baggage when something like this happens. Now she is seeing another guy and you're devastated. She feels bad, but she can't do anything because she doesn't love you anymore. She probably will not be back, for awhile, if ever. She may come back later on if you move on past her, but by that time you will no longer have feelings for her (trust me). It's a tough lesson to learn, but you must start RIGHT now. No contact. Even if she initiates, you tell her that you don't really want to talk or hang out. If you see her out, say hi how are you and politely excuse yourself. You will eventually stop feeling for her, but for now you have to deal with the consequences of attaching yourself again.
 
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