"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I want to LJBF this girl if she flakes or makes an excuse ONE more time.

Vice

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So there's this girl that I'm REALLY attracted to. She's exotic, attractive, and really intelligent.

She's also really busy. She sings, and it seems that every time that I call her she's always doing something.

When we first started going out she would take time out and meet me somewhere. Then the next week she had to attend her friends birthday party, and then the next she had some kind of singing rehersal.

Fast forward to yesterday. I call her and ask her what she's doing this weekend, and she says that she's busy.

Hmm, interesting, she told me earlier that she was finally free.

Apparently one of her friends is moving a few hours away and she's going to be busy all weekend.

Now, at this point, I'm not even sure if she's genuinely busy or starting to lost interest.

I personally really suck at talking on the phone, so I try to avoid it if at all possible. I actually managed to have an hour long conversation with her. But the last conversation we had was like an exchange of "hey" and me mentioning that I rode 30 miles, then awkward silence. Then I asked what she was doing for the weekend and she said the above. I then promptly told her "okay, well, I'm going to get going. bye."

Later that night I text her with "Sorry for acting so... weird lately"

The second night we ever hung out we ended the night with a makeout, and then it was almost a week after we saw each other again. She took the time out to see me (she was busy getting some haunted house together).

I really feel that I'm acting sketchy towards her and it's bothering me, mostly because of the way I talk on the phone.

And I really don't know if she's telling the truth or just trying to avoid me.

Either way, I'm going to try one more time. I want to ask her to see the new bond movie with me and some friends. Or maybe that's too much?

See, I don't like calling her because I don't know if she's busy or not.

But anyway, if she manages to find a way out of this, it's LJBF time. I'm sick of this sh*t. But I ask, in what way should I LJBF her? Over the phone? Facebook? What should I say?
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Igetit!

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If I were you,I wouldn't pull out the LJBF speech. If you call her,ask her out somewhere,then she gives you another excuse as to why she can't see you again,I would just say,"Oh,you going to be tied up this weekend? (or whenever it was that you asked her out),alright,that's cool. Alright look,I have to go now,we can just do it some other time". Then I'd hang up the phone,and I just wouldn't call her again.
 

The Sperminator

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I agree with Igetit. It's clear she has low interest. If she had high interest she would find time for you or at least counter offer. You can do this two ways. Either one you can just keep on digging at her until you get her or just stop contact with her. Persistence can pay off but it might just waste your time and you could come off looking desperate or pathetic, which you probably are right now. I would try one last time asking her out. If she says shes busy then **** her. How can you be busy every day all the time. Even the president has some free time. Shes obviously not making an effort. If I was in your position I would just cut contact. Don't tell her anything. Do not let her know you ljbf her. Just cut contact. If she wants you she knows how to get a hold of you. I repeat cut contact. Do not call her. Do not call her. No matter how much you might want to. Do not do it. Trust me. But if you want you can try one last time. Either cut contact now or ask her out once more and if shes busy then cut her off.
 

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this is a clear case of NEXTING
 
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