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[dmpitman]

Hello all!

I am a young man learning the ways of the Don Juan and would like to ask a question

I am interested in this girl that I met through a mutual friend. She has a bf, but I have gotten all the signs of interest. I didn't number close when I first met her, which I should have, and we had a short conversation on myspace, followed by days of silence in which I was too busy to really talk to her.

Anyway, a couple days ago I found out that her bf didn't want me hanging around her if she wasn't there, and she my friend and his potential girl were going out last night. I, of course, had other plans, so I didn't really care.

But, yesterday they started calling me and trying to get me to come with them instead. I said no, that I didn't like to blow off my friends. Anyway, she ended up calling me (which also gave me her number) and asking why I wasn't coming. Apparently, she had been the one getting the others to try to get me to go.

Anyway, I said that I couldn't, but that I would meet up after their movie. So, I did.

So we ended up hanging out at my friend's place aftewards for probably 40 mins or so, and I told them I had to leave cause I still had other plans. Of course, as soon as I said this, they decided to leave, too.

Anyway, I know she wants me, but I am trying to figure out how to approach the situation because of her bf. She is obviously into me, and she has made it obvious that she is taken, but still very flirtacious with me. And she gives me the eye (I'm sure you guys know what I mean). Should I just say to hell with the bf and ask her out sometime? Make it obvious that I want to take her on a date? Or go under the radar and make it seem more friendly at first, and then kino the hell out of her when we go out?


Advice, please!!!!

 

[dmpitman]

ad fyi, this is not a case of oneitis.


I'm going out with another girl tonight. And, I'm gonna make sure she hears about it : )

 

[WC2]

I've been on both sides of the fence (got with girls with BFs, been cheated on by another girl). Let me tell you, it sucks. You've got to realize that all of us are in this together and getting with a girl who's got a BF doesn't really benefit anyone.

You have to ask yourself.. will she do it to me also if I start dating her? I made the mistake of hooking up with a girl who had a boyfriend and she later cheated on me.. I saw it coming from a mile away, so stupid.

Anyways heres my advice - Go out with her somewhere. If things start getting real hot and you feel theres going to be some action, bring it up. Tell her that you think shes a nice girl, but it'd be better if she broke things off with her BF.

Ultimately if she just wants to cheat on him with you, she is lying. Never trust a girl who doesn't mind lying.

Good luck

 

[Eaglecreek]

Good post WC2, like you said, if she cheats on him, she will most likely do the same with you... This girl has yet to prove herself though, but the way things seem to be going, this is not a thrustable women.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Some girls are just generally out going and flirty even though they have boyfriends. It doesn't always mean that they wanna fvck you. But, If you wanna go after her. Just step up the flirting and kino with her and see where it goes.

 

[DonJuan11]

Hello all!

Anyway, a couple days ago I found out that her bf didn't want me hanging around her if she wasn't there, and she my friend and his potential girl were going out last night. I, of course, had other plans, so I didn't really care.

But, yesterday they started calling me and trying to get me to come with them instead. I said no, that I didn't like to blow off my friends. Anyway, she ended up calling me (which also gave me her number) and asking why I wasn't coming. Apparently, she had been the one getting the others to try to get me to go.

Anyway, I said that I couldn't, but that I would meet up after their movie. So, I did.

So we ended up hanging out at my friend's place aftewards for probably 40 mins or so, and I told them I had to leave cause I still had other plans. Of course, as soon as I said this, they decided to leave, too.

Anyway, I know she wants me, but I am trying to figure out how to approach the situation because of her bf. She is obviously into me, and she has made it obvious that she is taken, but still very flirtacious with me. And she gives me the eye (I'm sure you guys know what I mean). Should I just say to hell with the bf and ask her out sometime? Make it obvious that I want to take her on a date? Or go under the radar and make it seem more friendly at first, and then kino the hell out of her when we go out?

How many other plans do you have? The girl you like is in the same setting as you and you keep moving around and around. Not good.

Why are you hitting on a girl who has a bf anyway? It's nice that she gives you the "eye" but he gets the whole meal deal. He gets to see her naked, she allows him to touch her everywhere, and she lets him inside her and you get all hot and bothered over the eye? I wonder what you would do if she gave you a nice touch.

Anyway don't do anything unless she completely breaks up with her bf. In the meantime, NEXT her and sleep with other girls.

 

[dmpitman]

How many other plans do you have? The girl you like is in the same setting as you and you keep moving around and around. Not good.

I don't understand what you meant in that second sentence... elaborate, please.

As far as my plans go I've gone out with four different girls this past week and a half. I'm a college student so I work at night and thats really all i can fit in right now. haha.

Why are you hitting on a girl who has a bf anyway? It's nice that she gives you the "eye" but he gets the whole meal deal. He gets to see her naked, she allows him to touch her everywhere, and she lets him inside her and you get all hot and bothered over the eye? I wonder what you would do if she gave you a nice touch.

Mainly cause I don't care that she has a bf?

And, by the eye, I mean the look that tells me that she is into me. I'm not obsessing over a look, just using it as a point of reference and a confidence builder.

As for the nice touch comment... well, kino is an important part of my game. Touching is not an issue.

Anyway don't do anything unless she completely breaks up with her bf. In the meantime, NEXT her and sleep with other girls.

thanks for the advice.

 

[DonJuan11]

As far as my plans go I've gone out with four different girls this past week and a half. I'm a college student so I work at night and thats really all i can fit in right now. haha.

More to power to you. If I was dating a girl, I don't think I would like it if she went out with four different guys in one week.