"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I want to ask out a **** buddy on Valentines day

Maeisgood

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I'm in an awkward situation. There's this girl at college who I've been friends-with-benefits with for a while, but I want to ask her out, and its also Valentine's day and I'm not sure what to do about it or who to ask. I want to hurry up and ask her to be my official girlfriend, especially because I think she's about to stop waiting on me. I just take a long time to make up my mind on anything, especially an issue this big.

What would you all do in this situation?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Maeisgood

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To an extent, it is not good to be too attached to a particular woman. It can cause weakness, something to be lost, and general wussiness (sp.?), but at some point, part of being a man is being attached to a woman. That is how most of us were started, our parents loved each other enough to make more of themselves. Mating is the point of life, look at what the rest of things that live are trying to do.

I'm a senior in college now and I'm a little worried I've never been truly attached to a woman before or officially in love. I've assumed that was something that developed over time when with a particular woman long enough. When you're young, its considered weak to love a particular woman, but for me, being 50ish and still single looks like something a loser would feel content with. At some point, we must all make the transition. For the vast majoriy of human history, people high school and college age were adults with children and stuff.
 
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