downtherabbithole
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I am a smart goodlooking guy that is soon going to be 30 and I have been involved with a lot of girls in my life. Most of the time girls would chase me, but they are somehow always the girls I am not attracted to (like 5's & 6's). And the HB's I liked I chased like an AFC. Even when I learned a lot from sites like this and read a lot of psychology everything I tried still wouldn't work. It felt like the girls just love to play games or something.
So there was a time I was really frustrated because various people (especially older women) told me I was goodlooking. There were even gay men chasing me or looking at me at some point. But with good looks also comes a lot of pain, even people that you've never seen before insulting you or testing you for no reason. Or women that just want to show you off to their girlfriends and drop you.
I always wondered why and I got depressed. There was a time when I hated myself and hated the guts of women or even people in general for the matter. Thoughts of suicide would come to my mind and there was a time where I didn't take care of myself any more. To be honest I lost track of myself and I started making more mistakes. I became addicted to drugs, didn't finish any graduation and it went downhill from there. It all went to the point that I started to have sex with slutty girls and hookers. I am not proud of it, because I am known to be very picky when it comes to women. I even never had a LTR because of my pickyness.
As I'm trying to get back on track with my life I have accepted everything as it is. I know that my destiny and future of myself is in my own hands. And I am looking beyond looks now.
I got a question for you all now. About a month ago I met a chick from work, a HB7 i think, she is 18 just graduated from high school at the other side of the country. She's moved to an appartment and is studying at the university over here. About 2 weeks ago I invited her to join me and a friend from work playing snooker. We invited more people to join us but they didn't show up eventually. Except this girl, she didn't really know us except for the smalltalk. To be honest I didn't expect that she would come along but she did wait for us after work and it surprised me.
As I discovered she's quite openminded and smart like me and she smoked a joint with us that evening. She wanted to smoke even when I did not offer her and she never really does these kinds of things in her own time.
When I noticed her bodylanguage she was putting her clothes over her stomache some times when I looked, and she's a bit insecure of her looks I think. It is somewhat hard to get her talking or get a good conversation going, but I know that if I put enough effort in it that she will eventually be talking your ears off.
Recently I heard from a co-worker whom she's known for a year through instant messenging that she only has sex with someone that she loves so she must be definately looking for an LTR first. There is a high probable rate that this girl is even a virgin. Not that I care about that, however because I am still somewhat picky I know that I don't want to have a LTR with some slut that has ****ed around.
Now I personally think that this girl is exactly the person that I am willing to have my first real LTR with. She's on the right path in her life she doesn't play mindgames. I have never met an interesting girl like this before, she has high values. She's like the person I used to be ten years ago, and to me it's as if she's a butterfly that's still in it's cocoon, waiting to be opened..
It's somewhat hard to get her isolated at work so I can talk to her, due to somewhat different schedules etc, so it's most of the time only a hi, how are you doing conversation. I didn't go for her phone # yet because I know she's from the instant messenger generation, I figured this would be better. I chatted a bit with her at night but that's it.
Now I want to make the next step but she doesn't show a lot of signals or asks questions about me, so I somewhat doubt to go for it. On the other hand I have a feeling she likes me.
What should I do next, can you guys perhaps give me some ideas or tips?. I don't want to push or rush things because this girl is not the type to do that with. Thanks for the read and I hope you can help me and give me some insight.
So there was a time I was really frustrated because various people (especially older women) told me I was goodlooking. There were even gay men chasing me or looking at me at some point. But with good looks also comes a lot of pain, even people that you've never seen before insulting you or testing you for no reason. Or women that just want to show you off to their girlfriends and drop you.
I always wondered why and I got depressed. There was a time when I hated myself and hated the guts of women or even people in general for the matter. Thoughts of suicide would come to my mind and there was a time where I didn't take care of myself any more. To be honest I lost track of myself and I started making more mistakes. I became addicted to drugs, didn't finish any graduation and it went downhill from there. It all went to the point that I started to have sex with slutty girls and hookers. I am not proud of it, because I am known to be very picky when it comes to women. I even never had a LTR because of my pickyness.
As I'm trying to get back on track with my life I have accepted everything as it is. I know that my destiny and future of myself is in my own hands. And I am looking beyond looks now.
I got a question for you all now. About a month ago I met a chick from work, a HB7 i think, she is 18 just graduated from high school at the other side of the country. She's moved to an appartment and is studying at the university over here. About 2 weeks ago I invited her to join me and a friend from work playing snooker. We invited more people to join us but they didn't show up eventually. Except this girl, she didn't really know us except for the smalltalk. To be honest I didn't expect that she would come along but she did wait for us after work and it surprised me.
As I discovered she's quite openminded and smart like me and she smoked a joint with us that evening. She wanted to smoke even when I did not offer her and she never really does these kinds of things in her own time.
When I noticed her bodylanguage she was putting her clothes over her stomache some times when I looked, and she's a bit insecure of her looks I think. It is somewhat hard to get her talking or get a good conversation going, but I know that if I put enough effort in it that she will eventually be talking your ears off.
Recently I heard from a co-worker whom she's known for a year through instant messenging that she only has sex with someone that she loves so she must be definately looking for an LTR first. There is a high probable rate that this girl is even a virgin. Not that I care about that, however because I am still somewhat picky I know that I don't want to have a LTR with some slut that has ****ed around.
Now I personally think that this girl is exactly the person that I am willing to have my first real LTR with. She's on the right path in her life she doesn't play mindgames. I have never met an interesting girl like this before, she has high values. She's like the person I used to be ten years ago, and to me it's as if she's a butterfly that's still in it's cocoon, waiting to be opened..
It's somewhat hard to get her isolated at work so I can talk to her, due to somewhat different schedules etc, so it's most of the time only a hi, how are you doing conversation. I didn't go for her phone # yet because I know she's from the instant messenger generation, I figured this would be better. I chatted a bit with her at night but that's it.
Now I want to make the next step but she doesn't show a lot of signals or asks questions about me, so I somewhat doubt to go for it. On the other hand I have a feeling she likes me.
What should I do next, can you guys perhaps give me some ideas or tips?. I don't want to push or rush things because this girl is not the type to do that with. Thanks for the read and I hope you can help me and give me some insight.
