That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I'm not sure if that's what it really means...Originally posted by organizedconfusion
please don't..you won't like it..trust me.
i have that attitude naturally and guess what it's called?
apathy
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/apathy
it's came about from years and years and years of anger
and resentment..til one day i snapped and i no longer gave a
sh*t about anything or anybody.I simply don't care,
if that's the type of attitdute you want, be prepared to
have to go through alot of pain in order to get it.
It's developed from an inability to cope with negative feelings
in a healthy way..so you shut down emotionally.
It's not the best way to go about things , trust me-
you don't want to 'not care' , because it makes life
very very very depressing and lonely.
It's nothing like how it's portrayed as being soo cool...
because it's not. I'd trade it in for a clear conscience
any day of the week.
why do you want this type of mindset soo badly?
all it is is a defense mechanism to keep people at a distance
and not let anyone in..do you really want that?
because that's whats gonna happen...
just out of curiosity why would u want this attitude?well I guess im alright at talking with chicks and everything. But the question I have for you guys is how do you get the I dont give a **** about anything attitude? I have been trying to get that attitude for such a long time but it just doesnt seem to work. if theres some article or something please post it. I want to have this attitude so bad. thanks.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That's how i see it as well...Originally posted by tmpgstx
Not giving a rip is the attitude of the jerk. It gets women with insecurities all caught up in the jerk's *game*. It causes them to seek his approval because of his indifference.