I want me ex-back due to my mom, I need to get back the power

[alldidas]

I want my ex back so if I could hear some advice as to how to go get her back that would be great. I dont want to hear about getting rid of her. I love this girl a lot and im crazy about her granted we have been only dating for about a year.

We broke up cause she wanted some time to herself which I gave to her. She called a week later wanting to fix things. But before that could be done a person close to me in my family (mom arrrrggghhh) called her up leaving a massage telling her to stay away from me cause I guess they thought she was hurting me. Im in my early 20's and that isnt right for someone to step in for me just cause I told them of the problem I was having.

Now we arent together cause obviously she is scared. Yesterday was the first time we hung out in almost 2 weeks . It was weird at first. We talked about what happened and she would say I dont want you out of my life but I hope you know that that person might have messed up our future. As of right now she claims that she doesn't know whats going to happen but wants to chill out for now which is understandable.
I got her to sleep over though and just to test the waters I asked her if she wanted to have sex and she said exactly what I thought she would say, no. I dont know if she is hooking up with anyone right now or not it doesn't bug me too much because we arent together.

What can I do to gain the power back and have her want me? I dont call her everyday I basically wait till she calls me. Yeah at the same time im trying to get other girls but I want her still. Let me know. Thanks

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

I think you should chill out and give it some time. Date around and see what's ou there. I think her saying that this person who yelled at her ruined your future together is just an excuse. If I really loved or cared for someone, that wouldn't matter.

But, like I said, chill out and give her some time. If it is meant to be, it will be. Don't force the issue.

 

[alldidas]

the person was my mom which she has never met cause my mom lives overseas

 

[MindOverMatter]

the real question here is why the f*ck does your mom have your girls number

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

the person was my mom which she has never met cause she lives overseas

Even more proving of my point that is just an excuse! She never met her and she is overseas!!!!

Give her time or move on!! Don't pressure.

 

[djjoe]

i would try to see it as follows:

you have got ONE chance to get her back...

this one chance means her realizing how much she loves you and that she can`t live without you...
you can`t change that by any actions that you make, especially not the ones that make you look desperate or needy, so don`t act that way, don`t act at all...

let her call you, she will when she is ready, until then you can`t do anything to force her or make it happen any sooner...

if she will never be ready to get back to you, you also can`t change it...

so don`t get her back, make her get you back...
like the other guys said chill out, get to know other girls, there are many beautiful ones out there, trust me, and who tells you that she is really the right ONE for you... you only have a feeling, this is an emotion, not a fact...

so don`t worry, get out on the hunt, the sooner you do that, the sooner she will have to realise, that it is her who has to lose something valuable as well...

all the best...

 

[alldidas]

my mom received her number because she was recieving my cell phone bills a while ago and figured it was her cause it was showing up often on the billing statement. I would be scared as sh*t too if her mom did that to me. I dont know if I would want to continue on either regardless if I havent met her mom or not.

 

[alldidas]

she already pulled the lets be friends for now bs on me and I basically said whatever. she claims she doesnt' want to have to answer to anyone.

 

[PRMoon]

If this girl moved overseas and whatnot for whatever reason, that's good enough for me to cut some ties and move on. I mean a LDR is an LDR regardless of the situation surrounding it and LDR's just don't work out in your favor the bulk of the time.

Besides shouldn't you already have some other girls in concideration at this point? Who cares about your mom calling whatever girl? Get out in the feild and get a new interest. It's the healthy DJ thing to do.

 

[alldidas]

she already pulled the lets be friends for now bs on me and I basically said whatever. she claims she doesnt' want to have to answer to anyone. But the thing is I dont call her and she ends up calling me. She would call me on friday nights to come over and fvck and she didnt the last two weeks shes probably messing with someone which is fine we arent together well i guess its not fine but I cant do sh*t about it BY THE WAY ITS MY MOM THAT LIVES OVERSEAS

 

[DJDamage]

We broke up cause she wanted some time to herself which I gave to her. She called a week later wanting to fix things.

That statment above is an oxymoron. A person does not leave a relationship because they feel as if they need "some space" or they "need to find themesleves" that is Operah Crap. Then you said she called a week later to fix things and you accepted!!

She left you because she does not like you as much as you think she does and she wanted to try or were trying to hook up with other guys. The fact that you let her get away with it, showed her that you have no spine and she will use you until you get sick of her crap or she will find a better guy. You cannot fix what is broken, its like trying to superglue a glass vase back together after it was broken! if you try to fill the vase up with water, eventually water will leak through the cracks and the vase will shutter again!

I dont want to hear about getting rid of her. I love this girl a lot and im crazy about her granted we have been only dating for about a year

You either learn the DJ bible and become a better man or take your problems to "Dear Abby" fourms. In here you will hear things you yourself do not want to hear because you fear they might actually be true! Wake up Neo!