i want her to be my girlfriend

[snoop8]

hey ok, theres this girl i met on the internet and that goes to my school, ive seen her, ive hugged her, ive kissed her, and everything, we even call each others names like my luv and **** like that, but well her cuzin told me that before she met me, she broke up wit her ex. so i really like her and everything. and i want to make her my girlfriend, but her cuzin is tellin me that she told her that she wasnt ready for a relationship! so i dont know wat do to. im confused! we kissed in the mouth and everything, i thought that that meant that she wanted to be my girlfriend, so i dont know, wat should i do?

 

[Jerky Boi]

If she's not over her ex yet, don't pursue her. Otherwise, if you do end up going out with her, everytime she sees him, she's going to burst out in an emotional waterfall of tears.

The only way you can tell if she really is still into this guy is to ask her out on a date. If she acts interested, normal, and into you, you're good. If he's constantly the talk of the night, then I'd back away until she gets her mind made up. No one wants a girl with extra baggage still layin around I don't at least. Good luck though man.

 

[earthshyne]

Snoop, you're treading on dangerous ground here. Not for her, but for you. If she's still hung up on the other fellow - and the evidence suggests that she is - then you'll constantly be compared to him. Thing is, you'll probably compare unfavourably. Not because of who you are, but because she'll be seeing her past relationship in only the best light, in her imagination, and nobody can measure up against some sort of idealized past.

Give her time to grieve. By all means, ask her out and enjoy yourselves, but like Jerky Boi said, if all she talks about is her ex, then she's got baggage that you don't need.

Let us know how things progress. And good luck!

 

[Michael Chief]

People who are on the rebound suffer an effect of psychosclerosis that makes them desperate to an extent and this makes them easier to attract.
You're not on top of your game. You seem to be pulling too much and not pushing at all.
It's tough to do this sometimes because you have to consciously use techniques to attract a girl that you ACTUALLY like. If a guy were around a girl he actually liked, it'd be tough for him to be on top of his game. If he was around any other plain old girl, he'd be actin cool and natural. All DJs must make it so that they are cool, natural, confident, and jovial at all times.

If you don't know about Push/Pull tactics, do some research. Another form of that is "Two Steps Forward, One Step Back."

 

[snoop8]

ummm well i dont know if this is right, but well we were supposed to go to the movies, cause at the end, she said she did wanted me to be my girlfriend, actually now we be actin more like if we really r goin out. but ok, we were supposed to go to the movies today, but her aunt die so she said she couldnt make it, and that she was gonna make it up to me! i hope its something really good! lol well the thing is that she let me borrow her cellphone, she let me borrow it so i could call her and stuff, like yesterday, when she told me that she couldnt make it, we were talkin for like 1 hour and almost 30 minutes, till the phone that she let me borrow run out of battery! lol well ok, does this seem like normal?

 

[Michael Chief]

Originally posted by snoop8
ummm well i dont know if this is right, but well we were supposed to go to the movies, cause at the end, she said she did wanted me to be my girlfriend, actually now we be actin more like if we really r goin out. but ok, we were supposed to go to the movies today, but her aunt die so she said she couldnt make it, and that she was gonna make it up to me! i hope its something really good! lol well the thing is that she let me borrow her cellphone, she let me borrow it so i could call her and stuff, like yesterday, when she told me that she couldnt make it, we were talkin for like 1 hour and almost 30 minutes, till the phone that she let me borrow run out of battery! lol well ok, does this seem like normal?

From your tone and your story, it seems as though she's wearing the pants in the relationship here. it sounds like she has the control.
If this is the case, THIS IS BAD.

 

[Jack McCrack]

I'm going to have to disagree with everyone here.

Do not back down from a girl because you heard from her friends/family that she is not ready for a relationship.

If she acts completely cool around YOU and slightly emotional around OTHERS, who cares what she told THEM. She wants to look as best as she can in your eyes.

 

[snoop8]

ok and how can i gain back the control in this relationship?

 

[Mr. Debonaire]

Originally posted by snoop8
ok and how can i gain back the control in this relationship?

simple, take it

when you want to do something, do it. take her with you. when she wants to do something, do it, but on your own terms

be a man, be a leader

 

[snoop8]

ok thanks, any more stuff i should know about to keep this relationship going?

 

[snoop8]

umm u know wat, i was readin this other post, about some girl been popular, well my girl shes kinda popular too! lol like almost everybody knows her and everything, so i see that a lot of her friends r other guys, wat should i do? like i dont want to be like all jealous and ****, so can u please tell me like wat i should do?

 

[DemonXIII]

Be a Man

be a man, be a leader

We can't help you make every single choice, make you own choices too!