"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i want, but i don't

.illadelph

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i've never had a girlfriend and i'm 18.

a huge part of my head is telling me that i want a girlfriend and it will open me up to a bunch of new experiences and feelings i've never felt before. i've never been in love before, so i just don't know.

on the other hand, i see so many relationships where girl/guy is always fighting, and it seems like such a burden. there is nothing like the feeling of love, but for some reason, a part of me has no need for a relationship, at least not at the moment.

i'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. i'm always saying that i don't want a girlfriend because of the hassle it seems to bear, but on the other hand there's a need to feel and experience these new things, like none other i've felt before.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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we all eat food

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you know what i say, TRY IT OUt, goto a girl in the mall talk to her get her number, ask her out to date, then ask her out on another until your BF/GF OK!

jesus its not that hard.
 

Raptured Phoenix

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dude hold on

if you are out for INTENSE FEELINGS AND LOVE i recommend some spiritual rituals, NOT GETTING A GIRLFRIEND.


If you go around trying to find a GF to fall in love with, imagine how you will feel when she doesnt feel the same way?

Feelings can be intense positively and negatively. Yes being in love is one of the best and most intense feelings you can feel, but you would be much better off feeling it towards a girl you've knows a long time, dated a long time, and consider a good compatible cadidate for you, NOT A RANDOM GIRL AT THE MALL.


trust me i was in the same situation you are in, i wanted intense meaningful feelings and a hardcore relationship...but the fact of the matter is... girls just wanna have fun. Especially young HS sluts

I found a chick and fell in love with her, and she didnt feel the same way and i was very hurt, but also content because i had HAD the feelings of love and intense sensations and being in love


So I strongly caution you, but if you still wanna do it, then make sure you can walk away when the time comes.
 

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Being able to walk away, is the most important thing, I think.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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.illadelph

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i work at hollister now, so it shouldn't be that hard. i'm gonna try to get close to as many girls as i can...sooo many hotties to choose frome. this should boost my confidence a lot.
 
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