"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I wanna share this particular field report about my friend this past weekend.

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I know guys, the "looks not mattering" debate has been so over-talked about, but I feel I must share his experience, which I was able to witness.

A buddy of mine is 41. Looks like someone right out of the 80's, someone right out of the 80's "New Wave" alternative British rock scene. Awesome guy. While he's dancing this past weekend at one of the clubs we frequent on the Lower East Side of Manhattan, he see's 3 attractive "trendy" looking chicks, who are dressed a bit on the conservative side. As he's dancing, he reaches out to get one of them to dance with him. She refuses his advances, so he cuts his loss and continues dancing. About 3 minutes later, he starts dancing with some very attractive Korean chick. Now the chick who turned my buddy down, see's this, and now can't keep her eyes off my friend. I keep seeing her whispering to her friends like a little girl pointing in the direction of my buddy with a smile on her face. I swear to friggin' god, all she did the whole time was focus on my friend. She eventually whips her camera out and starts taking numerous pictures of him with her cell phone as he's dancing with the sexy Asian chick. This chick kept flashing away. Seems like all of a sudden NOW she's interested in my friend. Before when my buddy reached out to her to get her to dance, she refused. Now, since my buddy picked-up some hot Asian, now all of a sudden her interest level in my friend goes up. Women are f*ckin' funny man.

Now, I'm assuming his "look"(some women care about looks, but most don't, from what I've observed) in this specific instance had something to do with this chick initially rejecting my buddy..or maybe not, who knows..the point is, she was not initially attracted to him, otherwise she would've accepted his advance. But it turns out, as soon as she seen him pick-up some hottie, she automatically became focused on him.

It could also be said, this chick was just simply "intrigued" by my friend's style and nothing more. Almost like a circus figure on display. But I'm leaning more towards her being interested in him.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Im guessing she was just laughing at your friend inside and wanted pictures to show her friends so they could have evidence of what they saw and laugh even more later. I have done the same thing with my camera to an older wierd looking woman who wanted to dance with me...then posted her picture online so all my friends could see this crazy wierdo that tried to hook up w me. But I could be wrong.
 

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DonS said:
Of all your weapons, social proof is the most powerful- by a factor of 10.
Absolutely no doubt about it. you can be a Pee Wee Herman look-a-like and if you walk into the room with a beautiful girl(s) half the game is already won.
 

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samspade said:
But since she didn't make any attempts to go through that door again, we can't know for sure.
Actually she did. At one point, she stood about 2 feet in front of him while he was dancing on the podium with the Asian chick, to take a picture of him. I think he was too drunk to notice though(cause he didn't even realize that the chick who rejected him, kept focusing on him. I had to tell him). If I were him, I would've pulled her up on the podium, and grinded away on the both of them in a threesome. :D How's that for a night out? ;)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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