"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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WHERE S THE STATION ?
That s perfectly congruent Q SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE
GUYS got to feel congruent with what they say and do


HOMEWORK
go out on the street and ask where the station is , using a town map
have the chick locate the station for you on the map
for better results pretend you are FRENCH ( mimic a FRENCH accent ON youtube or impersonate a funny comedian like TONY CURTIS on THE PERSUADERS ( youtube )
then say you re new to the place are supposed to visit this flatowner in 30 minutes ( some chicks might even drive u to the place it s happened to me

if there s RAPPORT ( something u can feel instinctively:cheer: ) exchange digits otherwise don t bother ( that takes away the pressure of HAVING to Ask her for her digit - outcome independence

NOW if u apply the above you pick up many chicks indeed
it s easy ( no pressure you re doing something natural - askin for directions )
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i wonder guys on this forum don t take notice of what we advise them about
they re all in their own heads that s the thing
thee s this FRENCH social psychologist namd NICOLAS GUEGUEN who had students of his stop eighty women on the street asking them where such a difficult street was (re the experiment i am describing above
then they asked the chicks for their digits telling them they d love to invite them for a coffee
41 WOMEN IN 80 GAVE THEIR DIGITS

NICOLAS GUEGUEN 101 EXPERIENCES DE SEDUCTION ( google )

those are facts sheer facts reserrched scientically by one of the leading psychologists in cognitive psychology
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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foot in the door commitment labeling

people love to feel need chicks like the rest us
you ask them for difficult directions they make an effort they feel VALUED
you thank them by saying to them how HELPFUL they have been
( labeling in cognitive psychology )
you talk about inviting her to grab a coffee with you

you exchange digits as two normal civilized people would do

et voila
labeling = to praise somebody ( akin to the yes ladder concept cogniTIve psychology ALBERT ELLIS AARON BECK and social psychology CIALDINI FREEDMAN FRAZER BURGER
 

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For real. Your posts are unintelligible. Also, you are obsessed with "the station."
 

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obsessed with the station ?

how about the town hall or the cinema ?


maybe it s all to do to do with freudian psychology maybe i want to get the **** out of where i live!!!


THE KEY
HAVE THE CHICK MAKE A COMMITMENT ( you gihe her value )



tease her if you can

praise her ( labeling )

exchange digits
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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phenomenom said:
i think he speaking french
No, it's Frenglish. I am from Ontario, I have lots of experience dealing with people who speak Frenglish, so I'll attempt to translate.

I think he is saying that we should go out and ask women for directions, and then ask for their number. Apparently this was hard for the French to figure out so they conscripted their top scientists to come up with some basic approaches.
 

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Horsin Around With The Linguo

this is not :woo: a language course rite?
I LIKE PLAYIN AROUND WITH THE english LANGUAGE I LIKE USING COLLOQUIALISMS AND AMERICAN SLANG
I DON T GIVE A **** ABOUT MY MISTAKES IT S THE MESSAGE THAT MATTERS
 

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Yeah if you can understand the message, it is pretty insightful...

You should ask the chick "hard" questions. You ask her to pinpoint a place on a map, which is more difficult than just pointing in a general direction. That makes her feel likes she's actually doing something worthwhile. Then you praise her so you give her value, and chicks eat that sh*t up (like a baguett). Then, if you two are vibing, ask her for her number (with a 58% chance of success). If you don't feel her into you or the conversation, then just say thanks and bounce.

THanks for the tip AR, I'll try it at uni this weekend.
 

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ALPHAROMEO said:
this is not :woo: a language course rite?
I LIKE PLAYIN AROUND WITH THE english LANGUAGE I LIKE USING COLLOQUIALISMS AND AMERICAN SLANG
I DON T GIVE A **** ABOUT MY MISTAKES IT S THE MESSAGE THAT MATTERS
haha i like how you uncapitalized "english" there. is that supposed to mean something??
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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This guy is fun :p
 
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