I turned the attraction switch off

[RawkinKaoticStyle]

hahaha alright ( kinda long but what is long anyway )

well i totally messed up with my DJing

alright well its the first day of school, and im in my class and this alright looking ( her personality looked better )just started to spark conversation with me. So at first i was like whoa maybe i can practice on this chick. so i start only giving witty comments back to her, she was like "where are you from" im like " men are from mars women are from venus you read the book! " haha and i was throwin all thoes at her and she totally digged me , we got into serious convo, then she says " yeah me and my boyfriend, " but it totally dident phase and im guessing thats what made her like me more. and we kept talking. i acted undesperate and she was starting all the convo starters rather then me looking for something to say.

but on the other hand she said she like to be around guys, so im thinking attention ***** or something, but...

the next day this other chick in the class starts talking to me, shes like how old are you im like " old enough to watch rated R " some bull shyt like that but it made her laugh. Then all of a sudden that talkitive chick from the day before got quiet. she even told me that she like to talk alot. so im thinking shes a jealous person.

then the next day ( alright heres the bull ****ter )

i walk into class , i dont even say whats up to the so called talkitive chick, she sits down , that other chick comes to talk to me again, and that whole class she dident say a word !

so then i get home and i felt like i was sopossed to talk to her, i think i felt her jealosy and i got pissed at it or something and it brought the AFC outta me, i went home and rehearsed a line so she would talk to me ( i was desperate for a convo for some reasion)

this is what i rehearsed...

hey whats up
yesterday sucked huh ( because we diden't talk )
time goes so slow on days like that
on days like that i just open a book and act like im reading( i even told her my tactic for acting like im busy)

so the next day she comes in , and before she even sits down i start saying the lines, and all she does is smile and give a laugh, then she sayd "im gonna go on the computer!" ( why do you need to tell me that ) im like ohh shyt i ****ed up. She goes on there for the rest of the class, seems like she was avoiding me, i felt the tension.

then the next day i go over what i did wrong , the lines i rehearsed, it just seemed way to desperate, i should have just accepted her jealous ass! and i say im just going keep it cool for now on.

but its like theres so much tension now, she tryed to avoid me, thats why theres tension now, she changed her seat and everything . im like OMG attraction can be turned of that quick !!

its this is a year round class, she sits right by me and now i have to deal with the tension, and her avoiding my AFC ass, this sucks

 

[dbot]

You are thinking WAY too much, buddy. If the girl doesn't really talk to you one day, it doesn't necessarily mean she is avoiding you. She could be tired, sad, pissed, etc. There could be thousands of reasons why she isn't really talkative in class that have absolutely nothing to do with you.

As for rehearsing lines... just don't do that. You are trying too hard and it probably shows. You need to just chill and have a good time. Don't worry about what the girl says or does because it really doesn't matter. And don't worry about acting a certain way in front of her. If you are in a bad mood, then act as pissy as you want to her. So many people hide their emotions around chicks because they think they have to maintain this upbeat, bubbly, smart-ass personality 24/7.

When you stop worrying about the girls is when they'll seem to start falling into your lap. Right now it's all you seem to be thinking about and it almost makes you look up tight.

Here's what I want you to do. Sleep in one day. That's right, sleep in until right before class starts, so when you get up you don't have time to get ready, you have no choice but to show up at school half asleep, in your pajamas, with your hair a mess. You will naturally be relaxed without a care in the world, and your appearance will reflect your mood. After doing that a couple times, start getting up early again, dress to kill, eat a healthy breakfast, but keep the same relaxed attitude. Just try it

 

[Nocturnal]

Why did she give you the cold shoulder? Because you basically said (not through words) I'm not attracted to you any more.

When attraction goes from mutual to girl only, she will lose interest very quickly.

You're doing fine, but just don't try so hard. Just relax, live life .

Side note: Today after a session of skating we went to this ice cream shop, and my friend just walks in and goes "Hey remember me?" to this girl, who he's never seen before, and before she gets a chance to answer he starts asking for free ice cream like she gave him before and starts up this conversation that really gets her going. It was actually really funny to see. He just walked right up, got us some ice cream, and had about a 10 minute conversation before we dragged him away.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Damn that sucks, I think that chicks dig attention, and when you don't give it to them they get upset. For this example think maybe you should go initiate conversation with her when she goes on a computer or tries to shy away from you. But how do you call yourself AFC for talking to another chick. Sure, it was a little afc to have apologized to her, but you were in total control up to then. The chick was just feeling a little jealous and wanted to see if you would come with her (a sh!t test) and you apologized to her. (fail)

Nothing wrong with trying to talk to her in class, but don't go apologizing again.

 

[Nocturnal]

Originally posted by Microphone Fiend
For this example think maybe you should go initiate conversation with her when she goes on a computer or tries to shy away from you.

bad idea. this is just shouting "i need attention, i'll follow you around for it".

and he said he did what most AFCs wouldn't, not that it was an AFC thing to do

 

[Microphone Fiend]

so you're going to next a girl just because she doesn't stay around you like a puppy dog? The difference between an AFc following and a DJ following is a Dj talks about what's bothering him, and an AFC will just sit there waiting for her. You have to go out and get what you want, you can't wait for her to make a move.

 

[THA REALNESS]

You dropped the ball she was hitting on you.

And apparently got a little jealous when you where talking to the other one add that up to you IGNORED her the next day and didn't even number close the first day .

You pissed her off .

She'll probably talk to you but who cares ?you'll have to put in a lot of work to get them draws .

This is why i always tell guys to stop playing "I"M THE ALPHA MALE !!!UGHHGHGH"
"I"LL IGNORE HER AND ACT ANDROGENOUS AND SHE WILL LOVE ME""
"I AM BETTER THAN HER BF BECAUSE I AM MYSTERIOUS AND SHE KNOWS NOTHING ABOUT ME"crap.

I'm not mentioning anyone in particular but it seems very affenmite thing to do.

Why act? What's the purpose ? To seem unobtainable or unaproachable? Don't get me wrong ! I know you can't play all your cards but that's ****ing common sense !

It works much better when you don't bull**** anyone and go for the kill every time.See her ,approach her ,close. Repeat .

 

[Nocturnal]

Originally posted by Microphone Fiend
so you're going to next a girl just because she doesn't stay around you like a puppy dog? The difference between an AFc following and a DJ following is a Dj talks about what's bothering him, and an AFC will just sit there waiting for her. You have to go out and get what you want, you can't wait for her to make a move.

i didnt say to next her buddy. the point was not to let her have control. she does something and you change your actions based on hers? bad idea in this situation. it's not the fact that you're continuing to pursue her in this situation thats bad, its the fact that you're REACTING to the situation and you don't want to do that. a real DJ manipulates the situation into something he likes.

in all areas of life reaction should come second to proaction.

going out and getting what you want is one thing, but doing it this way is going to get you what you want.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Originally posted by THA REALNESS
You dropped the ball she was hitting on you.

And apparently got a little jealous when you where talking to the other one add that up to you IGNORED her the next day and didn't even number close the first day .

You pissed her off .

She'll probably talk to you but who cares ?you'll have to put in a lot of work to get them draws .

This is why i always tell guys to stop playing "I"M THE ALPHA MALE !!!UGHHGHGH"
"I"LL IGNORE HER AND ACT ANDROGENOUS AND SHE WILL LOVE ME""
"I AM BETTER THAN HER BF BECAUSE I AM MYSTERIOUS AND SHE KNOWS NOTHING ABOUT ME"crap.

I'm not mentioning anyone in particular but it seems very affenmite thing to do.

Why act? What's the purpose ? To seem unobtainable or unaproachable? Don't get me wrong ! I know you can't play all your cards but that's ****ing common sense !

It works much better when you don't bull**** anyone and go for the kill every time.See her ,approach her ,close. Repeat .

I like this reply, it hit home.........

 

[Nocturnal]

you guys aren't getting it.

it's one thing to pursue the girl. it's another to do so after she immediately before hand showed disinterest. desperation shines brightly. if he had done it right, he would have been giving both girls attention, but the newer one a little more. it also seems as though he never really established decent rapport with the girl before this whole situation.

 

[RawkinKaoticStyle]

yess yes, ive noticed that everytime i turn off a attraction switch it is nobody fault but my own, but that shows that we have controll over attraction? right? i dunno maybe

but yeah , the first girl i meet i was trying to act like that alpha male type shyt , and i was letting her initiate conbversation so i look like im being approached, and i stayed a little quiet to seem a mystery, but when i talked it was not shy talk.

i really just wanted to practice on her you know because she wasent that attractive to me.

its crazy though , i really must have sounded really desperate, as i read what i said to her , i laugh , ahahah

but in class there is still that tension , its soo anoying, im trying to relax and shyt but its like i dont feel like i want to say hi to her, but she sits a seat away from me , hah

 

[Ded_Skin_Mask13]

You're thinking too much, and over analyzing. That will cause you to doubt, panic, start to wimp out. truly truly relax, let everything just fall in to place man, like water. And you don't need to be rehearsing lines to say to women. Maybe some phrases are ok to rehearse but only to practice giving them tone and emphasis only, so then whenever you say it, it has more effectiveness.

Don't feel down if she doesn't speak to you, after all you said she was alright looking, and likes to hang out with guys(attention *****). Yesterday I saw some girl sneeze, I said "bless you" and she just looked at me...ingrateful b*tch. I could have felt desperate if I was an AFC, rehearse some bullsh*t, and talked to her the next day and she won't even remember what I said.


Take each day by itself, don't worry about her. If she's going to be flaky, next her ass.

 

[RawkinKaoticStyle]

wise words man , all of yall

its like i usually notice when im thinking to much and i stop myself but this time i guess i was distracted by something maybe it was wanting to convo , or anting to alpha or what ever , but its crazyu i dident even notice i was *****ing out untill it came out and i looke dlike a desperate fool , hahaha

but its all to the good

thanx yall

 

[RawkinKaoticStyle]

wise words man , all of yall

its like i usually notice when im thinking to much and i stop myself but this time i guess i was distracted by something maybe it was wanting to convo , or anting to alpha or what ever , but its crazyu i dident even notice i was *****ing out untill it came out and i looke dlike a desperate fool , hahaha

but its all to the good

thanx yall

PS.. in that class she tryed to go on the omputer right because she sits like a seat next to me and i guess she doesent like the tension also so she goes and act like she does work when i know she just wants to get away from me, kiddy shyt

but anyway, 3 other chicks in that same class are talking to me at the same time, tryin to mack me up and shyt, hahahah

i bet her ass got hella jealous

buit it all worked out to the good i think