I Turned 22 Today And Girls Still Think Of Me As Sweet And Tender. Need Serious Help!

[star_child]

guys please help me. I turned 22 today and girls still tell me Im sweet and tender.

I want to be bad, an *******, **** this middle ground. I want to be the guy they are all begging to **** who treats them like **** and uses the like sexual objects cause you know something.... girls love it. the relish in it.

thing is I only want them for sex but they get the idea about me wanting them for something serious when, first Im too civilized and kind and feel empathy for people and sympathize with them when they talk about how they feel or I ask about how they feel, second Im too curious and intelligent so I talk ask about them cause I want to know who they are out of curiousity and of their past and present and family and such and I tend to ask thingsa that for most poeple are apparently way profound even when I think fo them as being simple and third Im a good hearted human being who cares about what other people feel and wants to make people feel good as long as it doesnt mean putting them first. I also tend to move quite freely and do a lot of hand gestures and my face gestures also are sweet.

all this screws me up. I want to be the guy they have sex with, they beg to have sex with eventhough they know he is ****ing ten thousand other women and they love getting ****ed by him and they go out of their way and make an effort to get in his bed. I want to be that inconsiderate rude prick who treats them like meat and **** and they all want to **** him, but I have my whole nature going against me. Im ****ing becoming insane. I never get much sex, Im always either just a friend o most of the times the potential boyfriend they usually discard because he is too nice. the thing is I dont give em gifts, I dont call them everyday, I dont pay for any of their ****, I dont take any of their **** or rude behavior, I dont walk on eggshells, I dont want to marry them, with most i dont even want an LTR, I dont want to be their friend, I dont agree with everything they say, I dont do any of that afc ****.I just want ****ing sex. sex sex and only sex.

and my problem comes with my body language. my kino is not sexual enough, not wild enough, I am very civilized and elegant when i talk, I tend to talk about intellectual stuff, and I tend to actually be curious about who they are and where they come from and treat them like human beings and I am considerate about their feelings. and my body language is tender. I dont transmit the dangerous/exciting/ o please put your c0ck in me now! vibe. I transmit the sweet cool guy vibe and somehow they think sweet cool guys suck at sex or something.

what can I do guys?
Im out of ideas. its not easy being a prick when your whole nature and esscence is against it.

 

[makinwOmensmOuthdrOp]

I wouldnt suggest being a a**hole but your getting a mindset established.
If you want to work on your bodylanguage to attract women there are a few important aspects to realize. Boring to you may not be boring to her. When i first started out working on body language i couldnt stand holding my head up high, arching my shoulders, and moving slow. It was extreeeeemmmelly boring for me, and in turn the effect it had on females was profound.

To be a sexually attractive person, you must be and behave as an sexually attractive person. No matter how dumb it may seem at first. Be extremely comfortable in any situation. You can talk about boring stuff all day long, its not in what you say, its in how you say it. 93% voice tone and bl. 7% words.

Concentrate on sparking attraction when you meet women, not getting to know them so much. Make it a game. If you want to get to know the girl then save that for after you have already sparked the attraction. Then you can talk about boring stuff.

 

[The_flying_dutchman]

I'm 23 and I was exactly where you were a year ago. I'm not a DJ just yet but I know I'm on the road to getting there and it's only a matter of time. The biggest thing that I think you have to do is change your mindset. Start by putting YOUR needs and desires before theirs, but do so in a polite way. Make your intentions obvious, if you're attracted to her don't be affraid to show it.

Most importantly: Avoid engaging in intellectual conversations with women. Trust me, I know this all too well. I can't tell you how many dates I've been on where I engaged in an intellectual conversation or tried to ask her about her personal life/school/career/family blah blah blah only to end up boring her to tears. The problem is that by doing this, you're unintentionally letting her know that she's your equal--big mistake. Just keep things lighthearted and fun.

Being a dj is all about the mindset, forget memorizing techniques. Also, hit the gym if you don't already, you'll give off a vibe of badass-ness.

 

[Jackman]

Turn what you believe are your weaknesses into great advantages. It's about context. You see, the problem isn't that you're considerate and intelligent. Your problem is that you are not establishing this as a unique trait that a woman should feel privileged to experience.

For example, if you are around a woman you specifically like while you're also around other friends and potential friends, paying her considerable mind explicitly implies you are willingly anti-social to others in her presence, which is a trait of desperation and reeks nice guy.

You want her to know that you ask about her when she isn't around, but when she is around, you should be equally sociable with everyone around you and not just her. Give her no special attention until she earns it from you. Make her believe that your communicative, sensual qualities are earned and not given.

The goal is to make women feel special just because you're paying attention to them. When you achieve this, she will initiate kino willingly on her own.