"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I tried a new attitude last night

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I went out to the bar with a few friends last night (a nice mix of girls and guys) with a brand new attitude last night. After reading the Bible I decided to try a few things out. I didn't make any cold approaches last night, but I wanted to see if I could make myself more noticable to people in general. I did everything I could to appear more confident like straightening my posture, smiling at everyone, making tons of eye contact, ect. It made one HELL of a difference. I could see girls watching me when I walked by and the waitress was so focused on flirting with me that she actually forgot to take the rest of the table's orders. I also noticed my friends treated me a little different, like they wanted to talk to me more.....the guys and girls.

Outside of starting to make more cold approaches, anyone have any advice on something I should have done different?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Right on thats the spirit! You can become the alpha male of the group by doing that,but wait you already did!
 

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Nice man, also realize that cold approaching isn't the only way to get laid, if you have girls in your social circle, they introduce you to other girls, they introduce you to other girls, etc etc. You can be really successful without having to cold approach period.
 

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A post like this hasn't been seen on this site for awhile. Someone who actually went out, tried something new and got success. And it wasn't even that hard, was it matt? No big deal, right?

This post is great for those here that won't go out and try. Just go do it, see how easy it is? He didn't even do a whole lot, and everything was better for him. Imagine if he went and talked to one of those girls that were watching him all night, or if he went for the waitress's number. Its just that simple.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ace of Flames said:
A post like this hasn't been seen on this site for awhile. Someone who actually went out, tried something new and got success. And it wasn't even that hard, was it matt? No big deal, right?

This post is great for those here that won't go out and try. Just go do it, see how easy it is? He didn't even do a whole lot, and everything was better for him. Imagine if he went and talked to one of those girls that were watching him all night, or if he went for the waitress's number. Its just that simple.
What the F*ck are you saying :down: ? Read boot camps, I'm testing new stuff every day and so is afc_recovering:up:, D*mn I'm working my *ss off just to get NEEEEEEW results, things i've never done before...

So don't tell these threads are new plz :whistle:
 

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I meant, that a brand new guy, having spent no time worrying about boot camps or learning bunches of techniques, just tweaked his personality and body language a bit, and it made all the difference.

You guys have been here for awhile, you've studied everything, you've been doing stuff, and you've had lots of time. He just picked up the most important stuff on his first try and got instant results. No fear. And that's what its about.
 

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Credos said:
What the F*ck are you saying :down: ? Read boot camps, I'm testing new stuff every day and so is afc_recovering:up:, D*mn I'm working my *ss off just to get NEEEEEEW results, things i've never done before...

So don't tell these threads are new plz :whistle:
....I don't know you man, but from a post like this, I wanna let you know that it doesn't communicate anything good man. All it really says is, "Why are other people getting attention and I'm not? I want attention WAAA :cry: !!". Its really kinda sad man, you should be happy for this guy, not yelling for everyone else to pay attention to you. Listen man, you should be working your ass off for YOURSELF, not to get the praise of people on this board. this guy just wanted to share his success, relax, and enjoy your success for yourself, share it if you want, if you don't, don't hate other people for doing so.
 
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