"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I took my gf on our first date

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I took my gf on our first date, we went to watch movies and then had icecream cuz we were both not that hungry. However im not sure if i made the right move, I paid for the movie tickets, and she paid for the Icecream. Is that a good move or should i have payed for everything. The movie ticket is much more expensive than the icecream so she didnt spend so much money, i spent more money than her, was this a good move or should i have paid for everything?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Yeah, it seems like you screwed up big time. You should have given her your wallet so she could decide what to buy and how much to spend. Plus you probably had some money left over that you should have given to her. It would have been easier if she just had your wallet.
 

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In my opinion, since it was your first date, you should have just payed for your half. You will get a lot of different opinions on this though.
 

The Bad Ass Canadian

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
Yeah, it seems like you screwed up big time. You should have given her your wallet so she could decide what to buy and how much to spend. Plus you probably had some money left over that you should have given to her. It would have been easier if she just had your wallet.

:crackup:

one date and she's your GF? And no, you didn't screw up. But if that little ditty bothers you so much, I'm sensing that there's a lot bigger screw up well on its way.... we'll just wait til the next date when you give her your balls on a silver platter.

Man, you gotta stop worrying about every little thing. That goes for everyone on these boards... it's really getting rediculous.
 

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Well next time order a banana split so the money works out more even. :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
:crackup: Man, you gotta stop worrying about every little thing. That goes for everyone on these boards... it's really getting rediculous.
Yeah, but it's been amusing. You can never have enough good cheap entertainment... ;)
 

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I don't think you messed up at all, in fact, i think it worked out good. You didn't pay for everything like most guys do. In fact, she paid for half of the date..her's was just a bit cheaper. Who cares? Unless your really low on cash i guess..
 

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Maybe ice cream is worth billions of dollars in South Africa, which is why he's worried about it.
 

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yeah thats true

shes not your gf if you've only had one date

unless she reckons she is
 

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
Maybe ice cream is worth billions of dollars in South Africa, which is why he's worried about it.
Uhh, no... we have cheap ice-cream here...

And really shyt ice-cream. Nothing like the ice-cream I had back in Europe. Here in SA all the flavours even taste the same. Yuck.

Marizo.
Heh... well, I wouldn't say you screwed up. Movies and Ice-Cream is a pretty NORMAL thing, nothing to oooh and ahhh about, and very little room for error.

If you really wanna screw up: take her to the most expenive restaurant you can find, order the most expensive meal, hire a singer, then go to the gift shop and get the most expenisve thing you can find. Pay for everything. Then sell your left nutt to pay off your debt.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by DiMarzio
I took my gf on our first date, we went to watch movies and then had icecream cuz we were both not that hungry. However im not sure if i made the right move, I paid for the movie tickets, and she paid for the Icecream. Is that a good move or should i have payed for everything. The movie ticket is much more expensive than the icecream so she didnt spend so much money, i spent more money than her, was this a good move or should i have paid for everything?
By all means please stop dating if you have this mindset.
 

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Come'on, its 2005, the man doesn't have to pay for anything anymore. I say... 50/50 for a date. Seems fair to me :)
 
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