I too want to start a journal but...

[Wolfbones]

somehow I'm just too lazy and unmotivated. Well this is bull**** bc I think I'm making up excuses for myself. I'm not "too lazy" or "too unmotivated" to approach a girl. I'm just scared. Honestly Idk why tho.. I mean every girl that I've talked to likes me (as a person ofc) and I make people laugh very easily as I am a cheery person myself, I dress nice and smell good. But theres this girl at my school, and I want to approach her (ive never met her personally) but I always end up too scared to approach. she either walks by me or goes to the cafetaria at school where she hangs out with her friends. I'm pretty social but Idk what to do. could anyone help me get this over with and just approach her? I've heard about "the trap of tomorrow" and the "if not now, when?" saying but when I'm at school I totally forget about it. What do you guys do to get rid of this feeling or just approach?
My current goal is to get a girl at my school first before I start approaching women in the mall. I'm school-free tomorrow so the next time I'll probably see her is on monday.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Let's follow your logic.
You don't trust yourself enough, or you're not worthy enough to be dedicated a single thread on an underground forum?

Why is this? Are you afraid of judgement? I think not so much.
Maybe you're just afraid of starting. Because starting would mean having to actually step it up and start taking action. Starting is not easy, but doing so is what pushes you ahead of the majority of people.

 

[Wolfbones]

Let's follow your logic.
You don't trust yourself enough, or you're not worthy enough to be dedicated a single thread on an underground forum?

Why is this? Are you afraid of judgement? I think not so much.
Maybe you're just afraid of starting. Because starting would mean having to actually step it up and start taking action. Starting is not easy, but doing so is what pushes you ahead of the majority of people.

Thank you for the reply man. No, I trust myself! I really do. Neither am I afraid of judgment, since I don't care what other people think of me. Despite this mindset and attitude, I still can't get the feeling away. I want to start, but this feeling is what's bothering me. It's not that I'm nervous or anything, I just have this weird feeling in my gut. My school's throwing a party in March and I'd like to have her as my date thingy over there.

 

[Nino-Tk]

I see contradictions here, your first post says your aren't scared, your second post says you aren't and you aren't nervous. Which is which? And we can't diagnose why you don't wanna start, actually what do you want to do? Go for that girl, start a journal? I can't help it if you aren't being straight.

 

[Wolfbones]

I see contradictions here, your first post says your aren't scared, your second post says you aren't and you aren't nervous. Which is which? And we can't diagnose why you don't wanna start, actually what do you want to do? Go for that girl, start a journal? I can't help it if you aren't being straight.

I see what you mean. I'll try to make this as understandable as possible for all of us.

I'm not scared or nervous at all. (By this I mean in general, so if I want to talk to a girl I never met I just do it. But it's a whole different story when it comes to approaching a girl with the intent of wanting/getting her. Would I not be interested in the girl, then I wouldn't stop myself)

I just get that funny feeling deep down in my stomach that simply stops me from approaching her. (Because I want her) I tell myself "I'll do it tomorrow" and end up doing nothing the next day but repeating that same sentence.

I hope it makes more sense now.

 

[nroug7]

I see what you mean. I'll try to make this as understandable as possible for all of us.

I'm not scared or nervous at all. (By this I mean in general, so if I want to talk to a girl I never met I just do it. But it's a whole different story when it comes to approaching a girl with the intent of wanting/getting her. Would I not be interested in the girl, then I wouldn't stop myself)

I just get that funny feeling deep down in my stomach that simply stops me from approaching her. (Because I want her) I tell myself "I'll do it tomorrow" and end up doing nothing the next day but repeating that same sentence.

I hope it makes more sense now.

It's oneitis, remember, there's 3 billion more girls out there that can win your attraction. Yes, they have to win your attraction, what makes this girl so special that you can't approach her?
No.
That's not acceptable
You will approach her, and she will prove herself to you.
Anything less, and she isn't worth your time.
Remember the only important thing in this world - Your time, how you choose to spend it, what choices you make rather then your lack of choices are what make you stand out. Don't be so free, don't be so willing, why do you like this girl? What's her flaws? She is human as well.
YOU DONT HAVE TIME TO WASTE
DONT SPEND IT UNNECESSARILY
THE END.

 

[LearningSlowly]

Sounds like you're ok with who you are as a person, but you are not comfortable being sexual yet.

Here's an easy fix.

Go to a mall. When you pass a woman (of any age or attractiveness) look her in the eye and think very strongly "I'm attracted to you." Notice what happens.

When you pass a girl your age who you may or may not be attracted to, say hi. As you say hi, think strongly "I'm attracted to you."

If you attempt this it may change everything. The first step is not starting a journal, the first step is saying hi to a girl.

I practice that exercise in my life now. I talk to girls in my class using that exercise. When I see guys, instead of "I'm attracted" I think "I respect you."

Projecting attraction toward women and respect toward males is changing my life. I have a girlfriend but doing this exercise has given me at least 3 more girls who would like to date me if I would let them. Go try it.

 

[Nino-Tk]

Oh I see, okay, basically what LS and nroug7 said.
Just go and do it, the more something scares you, the more it means that you should face it head on.

You are afraid of being vulnerable as expressing your intent largely requires one to open themselves up to the possible risk of rejection. There's no way around this, express your intentions and get your peace of mind, whether rejected or reciprocated. Peace.

 

[Wolfbones]

It's oneitis, remember, there's 3 billion more girls out there that can win your attraction. Yes, they have to win your attraction, what makes this girl so special that you can't approach her?
No.
That's not acceptable
You will approach her, and she will prove herself to you.
Anything less, and she isn't worth your time.
Remember the only important thing in this world - Your time, how you choose to spend it, what choices you make rather then your lack of choices are what make you stand out. Don't be so free, don't be so willing, why do you like this girl? What's her flaws? She is human as well.
YOU DONT HAVE TIME TO WASTE
DONT SPEND IT UNNECESSARILY
THE END.

I don't think it's oneitis but I agree with what you said. Thank you for the time to write it, I somehow knew that already but getting to hear it again makes me remember it again.

Sounds like you're ok with who you are as a person, but you are not comfortable being sexual yet.

Here's an easy fix.

Go to a mall. When you pass a woman (of any age or attractiveness) look her in the eye and think very strongly "I'm attracted to you." Notice what happens.

When you pass a girl your age who you may or may not be attracted to, say hi. As you say hi, think strongly "I'm attracted to you."

If you attempt this it may change everything. The first step is not starting a journal, the first step is saying hi to a girl.

I practice that exercise in my life now. I talk to girls in my class using that exercise. When I see guys, instead of "I'm attracted" I think "I respect you."

Projecting attraction toward women and respect toward males is changing my life. I have a girlfriend but doing this exercise has given me at least 3 more girls who would like to date me if I would let them. Go try it.

That is it! I'm definitely not comfortable being sexual yet. I should change that. Thanks for the tip, I'll try it out!

Oh I see, okay, basically what LS and nroug7 said.
Just go and do it, the more something scares you, the more it means that you should face it head on.

You are afraid of being vulnerable as expressing your intent largely requires one to open themselves up to the possible risk of rejection. There's no way around this, express your intentions and get your peace of mind, whether rejected or reciprocated. Peace.

I guess I'm somewhat afraid of rejection.. thank you for the advice.




Thank you guys!

 

[twentee]

don't worry about it if u r no stud, etc.

it wont mean a thing until you are 25, at the earliest. It is really easy to get women in the third world, they are much better women, in most cases, and you can make 100k,cash from one over a 5 year period, instead of a US bvtch COSTING you 100k cash in that SAME 5years. with a US woman, she can potentially cost you 1/2 of everything you EVER make). u can RETIRE on that 200k difference (after tax now) right here in the US, if you know what to do with it, and if all you know is to put it into the RIGHT CD's, in the right countries, you can live FINE on the interest, in many very nice countries, like Portugal, or Uruguay.

A third world woman will sign a VERY "pro-you" prenuptial agreement in a heartbeat. What she wants is US citizenship, and she could not care less if you are shy, inexperienced, or broke. The US gov't makes you show a gross income of 18k a year before they will let you bring her here on a fiance visa, tho But that's just minimum wage and 10 hours a week of overtime, ie, nothing. u will have a 5 year "guarantee' that she will be a good girl, too. Try to get that with a US woman. No matter WHAT you give her.

 

[BPH]

it wont mean a thing until you are 25, at the earliest. It is really easy to get women in the third world, they are much better women, in most cases, and you can make 100k,cash from one over a 5 year period, instead of a US bvtch COSTING you 100k cash in that SAME 5years. with a US woman, she can potentially cost you 1/2 of everything you EVER make). u can RETIRE on that 200k difference (after tax now) right here in the US, if you know what to do with it, and if all you know is to put it into the RIGHT CD's, in the right countries, you can live FINE on the interest, in many very nice countries, like Portugal, or Uruguay.

A third world woman will sign a VERY "pro-you" prenuptial agreement in a heartbeat. What she wants is US citizenship, and she could not care less if you are shy, inexperienced, or broke. The US gov't makes you show a gross income of 18k a year before they will let you bring her here on a fiance visa, tho But that's just minimum wage and 10 hours a week of overtime, ie, nothing. u will have a 5 year "guarantee' that she will be a good girl, too. Try to get that with a US woman. No matter WHAT you give her.

**** off you worthless piece of ****...god I'm tired of you.

 

[Wolfbones]

it wont mean a thing until you are 25, at the earliest. It is really easy to get women in the third world, they are much better women, in most cases, and you can make 100k,cash from one over a 5 year period, instead of a US bvtch COSTING you 100k cash in that SAME 5years. with a US woman, she can potentially cost you 1/2 of everything you EVER make). u can RETIRE on that 200k difference (after tax now) right here in the US, if you know what to do with it, and if all you know is to put it into the RIGHT CD's, in the right countries, you can live FINE on the interest, in many very nice countries, like Portugal, or Uruguay.

A third world woman will sign a VERY "pro-you" prenuptial agreement in a heartbeat. What she wants is US citizenship, and she could not care less if you are shy, inexperienced, or broke. The US gov't makes you show a gross income of 18k a year before they will let you bring her here on a fiance visa, tho But that's just minimum wage and 10 hours a week of overtime, ie, nothing. u will have a 5 year "guarantee' that she will be a good girl, too. Try to get that with a US woman. No matter WHAT you give her.

I stopped reading after the first few sentences. What the hell man? I see this as a failed attempt to demotivate me. Good job.

 

[Nino-Tk]

Mods please do something with this idiot twentee! You just a waste bro, seriously!