"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I thought i lost my virginity...but not quite

vlf445

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I finally got to that moment id been waitin for, HB 8 in front of me naked on the bed ready to get fvcked, both of us virgins. I dont know how to keep this any sort of clean, so ill just say it. Basically i couldnt penetrate her. Everytime i tried her muscles would flex up and i flat out couldnt get it in more than an inch or so. I never thought i would run into the situation of not being able/not knowing how to have sex, but I cant let this happen again. Call me retarded n what you will, but i need to fix this and i got no one else to ask about it...

Any suggestions to help me out n make sure I dont run into this problem again
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Was she wet enough? Did you do any foreplay at all, to lossen her up?

She might've been stressed out, being a virgin, and her muscles were too tense.
 

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We did some foreplay for a while, she was wet n practicaly begging me to do it...but as i would start to shed tense up n i couldnt go any further. I feel like i need another shot at this cause my head is hangin pretty low still....
 

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I guess that counts as losing your V-plates :p

you need to get her to guide your d1ck into her pvssy. Tell her to 'help you in'...basically she just holds it in the right place while you push it into her pvssy.

Get her relaxed and wet so she doesn't tense up.
 

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Learn patience now and you will be a great lover. You said you only got an inch or two in... well that was a good start. Just work those two inches for a while then as she becomes more relaxed and excited you can go deeper.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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frisco

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let her rid you, Shell take it at her own pace and shel losen up a little
 

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Try sme kegel exercises to strengthen your PC mucles. It'd pobably help you have the strength to get that sucker in.
 

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Big Poppa said:
Try sme kegel exercises to strengthen your PC mucles. It'd pobably help you have the strength to get that sucker in.
lol wtf is this? thats not what pc muscles are for
 

Big Poppa

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Control of the PC muscles not only give you more control over not coming to quickly, it also makes your erection firmer/stronger.
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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I've had this happen even with girls who aren't virgins. You should finger her some to get things warmed up. The fingers themselves will stimulate her and hopefully cause some dilation. You can start with one finger and move up to two even three to make sure there's room in there, then try with your d!ck again.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Remember that some positions can be fine as a starter,being the first time for you im sure you wanna make some "lovely" position like the missionary but before doing it try some minutes of doggy style,dunno why but that position in my experience allowed to "break the ice" when it needed before changing.
 

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Foreplay, Get her on top guiding it in with her hand or you guiding it in, just feel around with your hands get your bearings then stick it in. Still problems?? Get more lube. Still Problems?? Use a little bit more finger action, then try again. Still promblems?? Keep fingering, deeper, harder. And then if you still can't get it in, you missed something in what i said, or you have a oversized penis or your nevver going to get it lol
 

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Yeah you gotta use fingers and possibly some oral to get her relaxed enough.

Also beings its the first time for both of you it might be a good idea for you both to drink enough wine just to get a buzz on and help with the relaxation process.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yea just stick it in her ass
 

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maybe she's a post-op tranny...just needs to be broken in
 

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typical problem with virgins she probably pushed her legs together and made it impossible for you to go any further in.... its simply because shes in pain. i think alittle finger foreplay will do wonders.
 

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was she relaxed? kiss her and ****, tell her to relax, generally set the mood while you're penetrating the girl, more so if she was a virgin. She was probably a little afraid of some foreign object entering her and tightened up.

Oh and like the other guys have said, your fingers are your friends, use them, finger her with 1 then 2 fingers using a 'come here' motion and if you can, use your thumb to stimulate the ****, or thereabouts.
 
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