"I think you're gay"

[martinM.]

Girls communicate feelings rather than direct meanings like us guys. When she says "I think you're gay" she is communicating a feeling - that she is into you and wants you to make a move!

That's exactly what it means.

 

[Smack]

Yes, women often communicate with immediate feeling opposed to rationality, but how the hell do you come to the conclusion that "I think you're gay" translates emotionally to "I am into you"? Even if a woman says this to you in the most playful and innocuous way possible, I don't know how you can possibly think that it's a good sign.

Smack, you posted a thread back in May about targeted feminist messages coming from society and Rollo responded with the following:



The bottom line that you yourself argued is that women are attracted to men.

If a woman says "I think you're gay", whether joking or not, there exists a conscious or unconscious thread in her mind leading her to directly question your masculinity. Even if she was just teasing you to provoke a reaction, why would you ever want to associate yourself in any way to homosexuality?

I know a lot of you are probably thinking something along the lines of "Dude, it's just a joke, she doesn't really mean it. Stop over analyzing, she's teasing you", and if so you would be completely missing the point. Even if she happens to just be teasing you, every time you continue to allow an association like that pass--either by playing along or allowing it to perpetuate--you continue to diminish your perceived masculinity or at the very least open the door for this to take place. Think about it. You are effectively anchoring the POLAR OPPOSITE of what women INHERENTLY and FUNDAMENTALLY find attractive TO YOURSELF.

I think that you're really missing the point and are forgetting an important fact about women: what they say does not have to be in any way connected to what they feel. Her questioning your sexuality is her teasing you. She's into you and wants you to ask her out. She wants you to prove that you're not gay. Maybe she's disappointed that you haven't asked her out yet and is trying to send you a subtle signal.

But unless she starts acting (actions>words, remember) like you're one of her girlfriends then don't worry, you're masculinity is not under threat.

 

[justiceseeker]

"That would explain the scorching case of anal herpes I've had all week"

But, I'm the type of guy who doesn't take much ****. If a girl wants to get stupid, I get more stupid.

 

[Bonafide]

I got this before from a group of girls. They said they thought I was gay because Im so good looking and I never try to ask any females out. I told em, the thing is...none of you are worthy of me asking you out. I don't know why, but they rode my **** for the rest of the school year after that.

 

[verysuave]

why dont we ask a WOMAN that question. Any woman here?

 

[I-am-someone]

I have a very close friend who has heard this quite a lot. He's a good pick-up artitst. He used to date second place Miss Italy.

He moves in an effeminate way, but he's definitely not gay. I swear to god that's why he's so good with women.

Use the force, Demystify