I think woman have turned me into a mysogenist!

[rgeere]

Well, I have a horrible confession to make. I have problems approaching woman or maintaing relationships with them because I have a deep seeded fear of woman. In fact as far as I can remember I have always had this fear. Atleast as long as I can remember, since all of the horrible experiences I had with girls when I was younger and that I didn't see my father for six years.I had to force myself to move out on my own when I was 17 and it was a real struggle to get away from my mother.

It keeps me on my guard consistently and I fail to enjoy life due to it's insistent nagging. I feel like I am in the dark as to what to do. I try to face this, but it pops out unexpectedly and I begin mistrusting and fearing girls even more worse than before I try to face it.

The fact is that I do want to have a relationship with a woman sometime, and I have had plenty of opportunities to do so. I just can't get over these horrible feelings, which keep me from advancing and being successful.

Is there anyone out there that can give me any advice on how to cope with this dillema?

 

[bp1974]

Without wanting to sound impersonal, read the advice given to Ernie_C in this thread, as it sounds like you are in a similar situation.

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=38553

 

[l-deezy]

I feel your pain dawg i never really had my mom arond. just me my dad and my brother real hard to trust females

 

[rgeere]

As far as the link to the other guys post I don't really feel quite as obsessed with myself as he does in that aspect. Sometimes I'll play videogames when I have spare time, but I don't look at porno all the time or live at my parents house or anything. I actually consider myself a rather successful college student


For me it is more like a fear that just pops out of the blue. I see a woman who is interested in me, and I get to feeling like I am back with my mother or the other woman that I never really got along with.

 

[CLOONEY]

yeah man, I never had my mum around, and I have been fukced up by a couple of chicks pretty badly, just playing games.

My advice just hang in there, date girls, even if you dont feel comfortable with them and cant trust them, eventually one of them will grow on you, you will learn to love her and trust her, I just hope she is the right chick, otherwise this could end up worse. But then again, this is your only hope.

Good luck, and take it easy.

 

[rgeere]

Yeah, I guess I should have better thing to do than go around worrying all the time about whether some chick I meet is going to royally screw my life over. The only thing I regret more is the fact that there were some rather worthy chicks that were scoping me out that I just outright rejected because of the fear. The was even once this cute blond hair girl with a 4.0 average that would always go out of her way to see me whenever she could. She was actually very nice and soft spoken. She transferred out to some other school and now I feel so bad I didn't maybe do more with her when she was here. Such is life I guess, and hopefully more girls like her.